I am proud to announce the grand opening of my newest addition to The Financial Domination Magazine.

After much contemplation and keeping the economy in mind as well as my available time etc I have decided to take the leap and create my School for financial fetish beginners paid to join Membership site.

The Domain Name is already registered in and the hosting in place. I am currently working hard at getting it all set up for you and in adding the content to the membership section. This this is a very extensive site it will take me until roughly April 8th 2012 (I picked my birthday for the Grand Opening Date) to allow it become fully live.

Billing can not be approved until I have most of the content in place, but I never yet had a problem with getting one of my sites approved. So I am not worried about that  part.

Now of course you may be curious to know what can be found inside the new School. Here is the line up of content and options.

My book “Financial Domination without the smoke and mirrors!” 2nd Edition *extended version*

All the back issues of The Financial Domination Magazine

New not yet published teaching articles pertaining to financial domination and cash fuckery

Exclusive teaching clips

Financial Games Money Mistresses can play with their cash pets for new to the fetish Money Mistresses

Website set up basics and safe billing options for those interested in building their own Membership Sites for worshipping cash pets

A weekly open chat mentoring session for both sides

A weekly questions and answer session for Money Mistresses only

A weekly questions and answer session for financial submissives only

plus several other little extras

 Now I do want to point one thing out to  remember, this is an educational Membership site and not a dating site, financial domination forum free to join site or any other type of freebie site. Only those deeply interested in learning and being educated about financial domination and cash fuckery should join MY School for financial fetish beginners from both sides.

You may have noticed that I said “Financial Domination without the smoke and mirrors!” 2nd edition.  I am currently in the process of editing and extending my 1st Edition of this Book which has sold very nicely since it’s publication. Since than several changes in the online world have occurred which I feel necessary to include. Once the 2nd edition becomes available for sale, I will retire the first edition completely.

This means that you will receive the new and extended 2nd Edition inside the Membership Section as part of your learning course. As well as all the other already published back issues of The Financial Domination Magazine.

The new articles which will be added are going to be updated once a month as will the exclusive Video Lessons. Those may or may not become available for sale outside of the School in due time for sale, but I have not decided on that yet.

The Website building and Billing Provider tips will be rather extensive as well. With information on both Websites as well as Weblogs. SEO topics, best hosting options and more. I am even going to go into the absolute must include into a website topic. Plus much more. So yes there is a basically a website start up guide for you as well included.

To me this is all part of teaching a new Money Mistress how to set up her realm, since she needs to have a place her pets can go and worship, as well as new to her submissives to find her in a less confusing manner.

I mentioned a few extras and those I want to keep secret for now and will until you join. Let’s just say you will be amazed and amused at what you find.

I have opted to offer 4 different payment options for this as well. A 7 Day trial non-recurring, a 30 day recurring, a 3 months recurring and a 1 year non-recurring Membership will be available for you to pick from.

No this is not an accredited school and you won’t get a diploma! Hahaha, be serious. I simply chose the name “School” since it is a place of learning rather than teasing.

For those of you curious as to if I will release new Magazines in 2012, the answer is yes. After I have build the school and officially opened it for my “Students” I will release a new Magazine Issue as well. Look for it at the end of April 2012.

I am pretty excited about this newest Branch to my Teaching Aspect via The Financial Domination Magazine Brand which I have build up. Stay tuned for further details.

Thank you for reading and visiting with me here at http://thefinancialdominationmagazine.com . If you have enjoyed and found my many different articles of interest and educational I would ask you to help me spread the word about the school. Please take a moment to tweet this post or to link it via your facebook pages if you have them.

Thank you so much in advance.

I have had some very interesting conversations of late with several individuals from both sides of the fence on this topic and since it seems such a hot button topic for so many of you I would like to give you my opinion on it  Please remember that this is only one Opinion – mine – and is no more or less valid than those of others.

Financial Domination has been around for a very long time now. What so many folks do not seem to realize is that there was financial domination before there was ever a phrase coined for it. Before we turned it into a sub category and then a stand alone fetish it was an essential and quiet natural part of a solid D/s Relationship.

Slaves by their nature knew and understood that is was their purpose in life to make their Dom/me happy and keep them as stress free as possible. Since money, bills etc can be a big stress point for everyone including Dom/mes it was just natural for them to show their appreciation and worship by taking care of as many of those stress points as they could afford. It wasn’t a forced thing, it wasn’t a oh get my dicky hard thing, but a natural aspect of their service to the Lady or Lord.

Matter of fact I would go as far as to say it was an honor for the individual slave to be able to “provide” this very tangible service and showed that he was a real man worthy of the attention of the Goddess he had chosen to serve and whom gave him the honor of chosing him for service. Yes serving someone is an honor!

For some unfathomable to me reason (I blame it solidly on the internet and their ignorance of deeper measures on those subjects) suddenly slaves seem to have forgotten this and are having a hard time going from fantasy talk and what it would be like to actual action. We do have some good ones left out there no doubt, I am blessed to be the Goddess to a select few, but the wide majority of them have some very confused outlooks on it.

Financial Domination is a lot more than just a business. For a real FD it is a way of life, something that comes natural to her. Something she deeply enjoys and yes will receive a mental charge from. If you can’t understand this you are a bit clueless about what drives a Dom/me to participate in this lifestyle.

Power or more the transference of power from a submissive individual into her hands which she yields expertly and with flair. Now let me take you further into my train of thought here. What holds more power in this world than money? Without money we as human beings are not able to survive, we are not able to take care of our needs. We become essentially helpless to society and its demands when we are without fluid income. Having stated this as such what is more of a Power Rush than to take this “tool of power” from a submissive and make it our own? What shows devotion and the giving up of some of his power more than his eager and willing handing over of this financial gift?

Are you seeing what I mean? If financial domination was purely a business with no deeper connect, no requirements outside of this we might as well go and work for Walmart or sell Tupperware to strangers. Because once you put it into a Business Term you are now “working” for the slave. You are being paid in order to provide a service to him which takes the word domination out of the equation.

So what about the Ladies like myself who film clips 4 sale and offer Pay to Views? What about them? That has nothing to do with financial domination but is simply another venue for us to make money and to offer different fetishes to those who for some reason are not able to commit themselves to serving anyone at all.

I have said it before and I will say it again. Life has a way of getting in the way and situations can change in the blink of an eye for a submissive. YOU CAN NOT count on an “income” or regular financial gifts from a slave for that reason. As a Financial Dom/me you get accustomed quickly to a certain lifestyle and a certain way of living, especially our younger Ladies out there. It is very addictive and can be quiet intoxicating in its own right for the Dom/me as much as it is for the slave. Because of that you need to have other venues of income so you never place yourself in the situation to become dependant on a slave for your survival. Remember that power means you are not dependent on anyone else in this area of your life. Those who old the power make the Rules! Done, end of statement.

With this phrased like that the Dom/me can not afford to allow herself to get into a position that she can not provide for her own needs and wants.

Does that mean having a slave pay for a bill for us if we so desire to give them this honor is a show of neediness? No it isn’t as long as you can afford to pay the bill by yourself. Basically it will be paid regardless if he does it or not. If he does follow his order and happily serves as he should the bounty of pleasure is shared. He was able to provide a valuable service to his Lady and she can now spent the money on something she would like instead or pay the bill again for credit on her account.

What bothers me is when I hear slaves being so impressed by a Domina talking about how she never has to take care of her own upkeep and uses her money for drugs and alcohol instead. First off you lose control and focus when you do that, over yourself and with that over others. It is hurtful to your body in so many ways and only will speed your aging process.

EAsy money is easy spent – that is a fact. Once you get used to having thousands of dollars running through your hands without having to do much more than talk a little and make silly faces or look cute on a cam,  you do not appreciate it because you did not have to do any work for it. Of course that is not always the fact (I mean that it is all sunshine and roses) matter of fact 99% of individuals claiming to be financial submissives wouldn’t have clue one what it is if it bit them in the ass.  The point is that if you are younger you have the attraction (physically) going for you and “servants” are a lot easier to come by. At that point you are more just about the cash as well in most cases. As you grow and develop deeper into your own path, style and self your requirements for service will become a lot stricter, more structured and you will find quickly that the offer of money from someone who confuses you with an online hooker or a camgirl, an adult performer of any kind matter of fact is less enticing.

If you would have financial domination at that more mature point as a business you would end up being stuck and almost find yourself in the position to have to accept such demeanor from the “subs”. If you however kept your integrity and have found other venues (even if they are in the adult industry on any level) you can afford to tell that person to take a long walk of a long bridge. Again keeping the Power in your court instead of handing it over to someone else.

So if that is the case, why do we not do all this for free? Well hello did you read the first part of the Article? It is a power rush, it is a transference of power and it is what an FD does. Money is the bottom line! The final very core basic of this fetish and lifestyle. From the slaves hands eagerly given and desired to be of service to his Lady in that manner into the pocket of the Lady in question who understands that this is her right and privilege to demand and accept this from the slave who had CHOSEN to serve her.

Financial Dominas (those who truly understand and appreciate this fetish and have made it their lifestyle and whom it is a part of) are neither Gold Diggers, Scam Artists nor desperate Sugar Babies. They are women of power who have a firm grasp on what they want, how they want it and have enough common sense and integrity to decide from whom they are willing to receive it.

Financial slaves (true ones) understand the dynamics and need them in order to be filled with purpose and enjoy their station in life. It makes them both fearful as well as proud and happy to be chosen and/or accepted by a wonderful woman who understands the power she wields.

Financial domination is not for everyone. It should never be forced and needs to met the needs of both individuals from the opposite end. If it doesn, than it is nothing more than a pitiful game and a cheaping of what those who live it and breathe it take extremely serious.

So is financial domination just a Business? NO it is a way of life and goes far beyond just a business transaction. You will never see a sign on my website that says – 1 million served!

As always

Goddess Bella Donna

I have written endless Articles on how to and how not to approach a Domina if you want to make first contact. I have gone over this time and time again, in various wording just to make certain that even the slowest of learner out there in cyber space has an opportunity to clue in on what some of the biggest mistakes are you can possibly make.

Yet it seems that when it comes to actual learning the “curve” appears too steep for so many of you poor intellectually challenged darlings. I don’t even want to hear the excuses anymore either, that you boys shouldn’t have to “pay anything up front in order to spend some time just talking to her”. You see it is the attitude of too many of you, who have almost forced those us ladies to put a stopper in this bottle.

So since it is almost Christmas and I am feeling extremely generous in wasting my breath once again (evil smirk) I will break it down even more for you, and hope that you (boys, guys, men, wankers, sluts choose what fits) will finally sit up, read and take some notes.

Best yet, turn it into a little mantra and reside it daily to yourself. Remember, that even so I am only one Lady in millions of them, most of us look at this pretty much the same way.

In order for it to be a quicker learning experience I have chosen to teach it this time like you do in middle school or music school….word association by letter. The word for this particular lesson is R.E.S.P.E.C.T.

Ironically that is all that those rules really amount to, but for some of you that little fact is just not clicking in. So here we go.

R. stands for: Recognize that she doesn’t owe you the time to talk to you, and that she might just be too busy with her life to waste it on you for free. You need to remember that we give you things for free constantly, and so if a Lady demands or expects a small introduction gift (that is all it is by the way) so she can see you truly do appreciate her, then you can simply see it as repaying her for all the freebies she has already given you. See not that hard is it? This way you are only paying off your debt to her, because if you have enjoyed it, read it, came from it, stroked off to it….you are already indebted to her and you are only holding Her money for her. Stop fighting about that. If you don’t want to feel that way, if you don’t feel the desire to make her smile – don’t contact her! Her private time (messenger) is her time to spend with whom she pleases period, you were not invited. So you better make damn sure you are welcome there and not a nuisance.

E. stands for: Entertain her, not annoy her. You boys have the hardest time with understanding the difference for some reason. Look, even if we are willing to give you a few moments for free because we are feeling either bored, generous, in the mood for a nice chat, doesn’t mean you should try to take the mile if we give you an inch. If you first come to me for a conversation and I have decided that just perhaps I feel like chatting for a bit, don’t overload me with fetish talk. I have to be in the mood for that, and when I first start talking to someone the last thing I feel like doing is discuss your cock size, your desire to lick my feet clean or whatever other little issues you might be having. As soon as a boy starts this sort of “turn on” talk with me, I already know what you are looking for. It isn’t serving me, but to get a nut. Not interested, but thanks for playing. Entertaining me results in my smiling and laughing, having a great time and wanting to continue the conversation. Annoying me means end of chat, because you just crossed the line. I don’t enjoy being annoyed and so if I even head that way, you get one warning and then you are gone. You can create as many yahoo messenger names as you like, I can block each one of them in turn. In the end, you still aren’t going to top me from the bottom, annoy me or try to force your weasely ways on me. End of statement.

S. stands for: Say something intelligent when you first start talking and through out the conversation. There is nothing lamer then some boy coming on a messenger and start off with: “Hi” and followed by “I want …” I get so tired of not only the utter lack of respect that such a greeting brings to my doorstep (do I look like your buddy from kindergarten?), but by the lack of intelligence to know that you never greet a respected person that way. Introduce yourself in the first couple of sentences, use my name or respect greeting (Ma’am) and at least pretend to care how my day is and if I am busy. Not that difficult. Let me even once more type it out for you, this way you simply have to copy and paste it filling in your information: Greetings Ma’am (or enter her name), my name is ……., I am a …….year old, submissive / slave/ fetishist/ man (whatever fits) from …….(enter location.) I have heard about you / found you/ read your writing at (enter location) and I was wondering if you are too busy at the moment to speak to me for a few moments. …. Now in my case this should be done inside of the $40 introduction gift pay to view or with an amazon e-certificate attached. Why because I work online and I don’t have time to waste it constantly and at least this way I know you are a. old enough to talk to, b, have the funds to tribute and the way, and c. are into financial domination.

P. stands for: POLITE! There is a huge difference between blowing sunshine up my ass and being polite. I am one of those Ladies who get really irritated and bored when someone gives me textbook answers or tries to tell me how beautiful I am. If you only want to “worship” my beauty go buy some clips and jerk off to them. There is you an assignment. If you want to serve me, you better see a lot more then my outside. Don’t drop the manners in the middle of a chat. Don’t make me wait for answers. Don’t sit there and try to feed me a line of B.S. a mile long. Don’t bother trying to tell me how to dominate you, or what I am going to do for you. None of this is going to get you further then to my iggy bin. Politeness is as simple as listening to a question asked, answering it expediently, answering it quickly and using the manners your Mom should have taught you. Use full sentences, cut the internet speak when addressing me. The first time I see u r instead of you are. You are already 2 points down. And yes when you hit – 20 points you are gone period.

E. stands for: Educate yourself first about her! Before you start running to a particular Lady, start reading up a little about her first. NO not just look at her pretty pictures, her big boobs or delectable legs. READ her words. Educate yourself about her likes and dislikes. See if you actually have anything in common besides both being adults and kinky. You have no clue how much of a difference that really makes in the end. Because when it is all said and done, you are not going to talk to her 24/7 constantly about kink. You are not always going to be humiliated, drained, trained, schooled etc. You actually need to be able to entertain her in areas which are mundanely vanilla! You should have some of the same vanilla interests, hobbies, maybe something you can actually learn from each other etc. I want to form a relationship that is meaningful, that is why I don’t want to tribute you until I am sure you can provide what I need. Yes I have actually heard that from boys before and I wanted to reach through the screen and slap them. Nothing wrong with the desire to form a relationship (D/s) I prefer that myself, but to see if I can provide what he needs? Hello, isn’t that a big backwards. How about if we match, if we have anything in common. What about if you are able to serve me in the ways I desire? As a submissive ironically your needs are automatically met if you serve the right Lady and you meet her needs. Because that is what the spirit of submission is…the need to please her above all else! So educate yourself first, so you don’t have to ask her dozens of stupid questions which she has already answered a million times.

C. stands for: Creative! Be creative, stand out, and use your mind a little. We hear the same old song and dance a million times a year. I for one have little interest in cookie cutter subs. If you want to be one of my boys, you need to show me you are unique. What besides money do you bring to my table? What talents do you have that I can make use of and amuse myself with? What do you have that I can turn into an assignment because you are adept at it? Trust me jerking off is not a talent, any retard can do that.

T. stands for: Tribute … yes we hate that word because it is so mundane and so cold. But what does Tribute actually stand for? Webster Dictionary defines the word Tribute as follows:

Definition of TRIBUTE

1

a : a payment by one ruler or nation to another in acknowledgment of submission or as the price of protection; also : the tax levied for such a payment b (1) : an excessive tax, rental, or tariff imposed by a government, sovereign, lord, or landlord (2) : an exorbitant charge levied by a person or group having the power of coercion c : the liability to pay tribute

2

a : something given or contributed voluntarily as due or deserved; especially : a gift or service showing respect, gratitude, or affection <a floral tribute> b : something (as material evidence or a formal attestation) that indicates the worth, virtue, or effectiveness of the one in question <the design is a tribute to his ingenuity>

So for those of you who need to feel like losers this shouldn’t be a problem as seen in 1 (1) or 1 (2). For those of you who are truly submissive minded and in awe to the Lady in question and appreciate her for her wonderful self 2 *a & b* should be in affect.

So what is so wrong with the word Tribute? It simply means that you appreciate the Lady in question and wish to give her something worthy of her wonderful self!

There you have it.

R.E.S.P.E.C.T. – learn it, use it, live it and please for gracious sakes start acting on it!

Good morning everyone and thank you for once again stopping by my Website. I usually try to give you small samples of the Articles in the Magazine as I publish them, but this time I am a bit late on this.

So here they are, better later then never I always say. Enjoy the Samples and if you want to read the full Articles make sure to purchase the Magazine in either downloadable or Print by clicking here!

The difference between cash fuckery and financial domination

With the new variations of what financial domination is to so many different folks, it often gets really difficult to find your own personal style which you can feel comfortable with.

The reality is that certain aspects of it are on the borders of what financial domination really should stand for.

Is there are right and a wrong way? Well, reality is that what is right for me, may not be right for you. It is as varied as the people participating in it. Yet to me there is a distinct difference between cash fuckery and financial domination. I would consider cash fuckery the stepchild of financial domination. Often looked down upon and quite often misunderstood on purpose.

What is cash fuckery?

To me personally cash fuckery is the “purchasing” of tasks, clips, and one of online draining sessions that so many “me subs” participate in. It is all about the instant gratification of their fetish desires and truly have nothing at all to do with serving, service, adoration or worship of any kind for the specific Lady in question.

On the outside of it, the conversations may look the same, he is still blowing the same sunshine up your ass that a lot of boys are so fond of doing. Telling you what they think you want to hear, but it is not really meant. He simply is saying what he believes will get him to his goal. That is to get off! That is the main purpose behind it all. He is not interested in doing anything other then what will get him there, your desires in this do not even come into call.

In this case, naturally, the Ladies behavior too changes. Or sometimes that is really all she is about. In this case it is all about the money! Training him is of no interest to her. She understands fully that this is never going to go further then the instant trade off. …..

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What to do when you just don't feel that spark anymore

“When you don’t have fun with it anymore it is time to stop”.

This is one of my favorite quotes and one I have based a lot of my life on. There are things you can’t just stop doing because your livelihood depends on it like working, but when it comes to other areas of your life you need to be in the driver’s seat of it.

The problem occurs with this statement when it is such a big part of who you are, that the loss of it would be a big impact on you.

As of the last several months I have found myself very disillusioned with the pretenses in financial domination on both sides. Everything I believed in, held dear and understood from years of doing it has been twisted and turned into something I personally find ugly and distasteful.

With that, disappointments and frustration happens. Something which robs you of joy in the doing.

The reality is that as times change, personalities change and new influences are being brought into an established lifestyle. What once was, often times is no longer. So when you are a veteran and a holdover from a different time like me, you can often find yourself very disappointed and frustrated.

Continuing on doing what you have always done in the same way you have always done it in, will only continue to frustrate you. The point is you can’t single handedly change things that are being changed by hundreds of people.

At first I had considered to simply stepping out of it all together, but found that for me personally this was just not a possibility. I still love what I do; I just don’t like what it was being turned into.

My principals and handling of it was clashing strongly with the new outlook of what was being “taught” by newer generations of folks who came into in the last 3 years.

What to do? If you are in the same position as I found myself in, but are not ready to just throw in the towel and walk away for good, you may be able to do what I ended up doing. ………..

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Evolving as a Domme without completely losing your principals

In many ways this article is a continuation of the one before. I have touched on how you can evaluate your position and what you may find as the stepping stone to your personal change or evolution.

A fact is that the longer you do anything in life, the longer you live, the more you will naturally evolve. If you never change, never evolve or never get better, you are not living life to the fullest. Life is full of changes; sometimes those changes are triggered by something distasteful at first glance. Yet upon looking back on them, they may have been the best thing that ever happened to you.

Let us assume for the sake of argument and this article that you have decided to adopt certain newer aspects into your own way of handling things.

Now comes step two and often times the hardest part. How do you evolve without completely losing your principals? Sounds so easy doesn’t it? Believe me when I tell you it isn’t.

I would like you to take a notebook or piece of paper you can put somewhere you can see at an easy glance. This may take you several weeks to fine tune.

Yes, it is a plan you are drafting. A life plan and as with everything else in life having a goal and a plan it can help you make it happen a lot easier and quicker. Remember intent is half of the work.

Write down on the top – My evolved self and how I see it to be!

Now make two columns or dedicate two separate pages to it.

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Honesty and why it is so important, but can lose a lot of opportunities for you

Ever hear the golden rule of silence is golden? Have you ever been excused of giving too much information? Do you believe in absolute privacy about your personal beliefs and private life?

All of these statements and questions above are valid. In many situations, remaining silent and not saying too much about your personal beliefs and private life can definitely carry you further.

On the other hand, it can cause a lot of stress and a lot of potential problems when dealing with your opposite in a D/s Relationship.

Do you remember the Cornerstones of D/s?

#1 Honesty

Honesty also means not withholding information that the other one needs to know. That means they have a right to know what you believe on certain topics. If they are to serve you, they need to know certain things about your private life.

#2 Trust

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Dealing with repeat Wankers

If you have been any amount of time in financial domination and especially online you will have encountered them. The boys who come on your messenger under different names and simply try to waste your time with freebie chat seeking techniques. Most of them are not even smart enough to change their approach.

Now you can get irritated with them, block them, fall for it repeatedly or you can deal with them with style and grace.

I have a pretty good memory for conversations and certain key phrases stick in my mind. There is one “serial wanker” who pops up on my messenger under both male and female submissive status at least once every month. He can never get it quite right and sooner or later he uses the same tired sentences or phrases. In his case, I have turned it into my personal game of amusement. I try to see how long it takes me to recognize him and give him a tribute demand with the stern warning that if it does not arrive he/she is shit out of luck. My personal best so far is 4 minutes. I am going for 2 next time!

See what I mean? Instead of getting irritated, have fun with them.

Another one comes on under the same name even. He seems to keep forgetting whom he already tried. So now when he comes on I just tell him to get that journal bought and start writing down the names of the Dommes he wanked too. Then I wish him a nice day and go about my way. He actually got a spot in my book: “Sometimes all you can do is laugh.”

I guess he is a special type of wanker retard.

Whatever you do never let them get the better of you. If you feel yourself becoming annoyed simply close the chat window. Put him on ignore and if you feel evil push “spam”. Remember who is in charge of your time. That would be you!

Set up a precise online presence which outlines your expectations to the T. When I have “new to me” or “repeat seekers” approach me who I get the “wanker vibe” from I simply tell them: ………

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How far should you get involved in a financial subs personal life if at all?

To me getting to know your subs on a personal level (vanilla interests, relationships, worries, jobs etc) is very important. There is a lot more to a human being then just their D/s interests. If all you do is talk about fetishes all the time, you will get a very one sided and incomplete picture of them in a hurry.

I have a personal habit of getting to know as much as I can about their personal relationships with other people. For example if they are married and have children I know their wife’s first name and usually at least the birth month. I do like to know the names of the children, their birth date, and see photos of them.

Does that seem strange to you? It shouldn’t, those are the most important people in my boys’ life and I take great interest in making certain to keep their home life as smooth running as possible. As their Goddess I see it as my responsibility to aid them in this. Males are notorious about missing small things which can end up turning into big issues in the long run.

I counsel them when they have personal problems and I do not take just one side or the other. To me the wife is not my enemy, but someone who deserves respect. She must have been a wonderful woman to begin with, no matter where it ended up at. If my sub can’t respect the most important woman in his life, which should be their wife naturally, I can’t assume they will respect me.

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Manners, manners and more manners!

Are you tired of me going on about manners yet? Well if you are, I give you permission to skip this article, but you are going to hear about it again. It seems to be one of those things I am almost forced to nag about, because so many folks can’t seem to get it through their thick skull how important manners are!

To me manners are the begin all and end all of any interaction with people. I cannot stand rude or unmannerly individuals. I am not expecting you to do cartwheels either, but I expect you to use simple manners that even your mommy should have taught you when you were little.

Here are some of the basic manners that any Domme or sub should be able to expect realistically. It should be an unspoken rule and come natural without having to be reminded.

Address the person by name!

You have been given a name for a reason, it identifies who you are. In many D/s situations it also specifies a certain standing or has a deeper meaning. I give each of my submissives a new pet name when they go into service with me. That is personal to them, something I have thought about and saw as fitting. By calling them by their name, I automatically remind them and put them at their rightful place at my feet or into my presence.

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Dealing with the entitlement attitude on both sides when it goes out of bounds

I want to keep this one as quick as possible since I still have a lot of ground to cover in today’s Issue.

Feelings of entitlement are in most cases either a great turn on when it is by the Lady or a human right for both sides. When it goes way out of bounds so it needs to be dealt with in a gentle but firm manner when done by the sub, and in a respectful manner when done by the Lady.

Here are some human things we are all entitled to regardless of which side of the fence you are on.

·     Respect and manners – we all are entitled to those.

·     Having our privacy and opinions respected. If you want to share with others what is going on in your personal life that is your right. It isn’t anyone’s right to drag your personal business around without your consent. You don’t have to agree with someone’s opinion on something, but you need to respect that they have the right to it.

·     The Ladies have a right to receive the tributes you agreed to pay.

·     The boys have a right to receive the rewards promised to them.

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Enjoy the issue and remember to tell your Friends about them too!

Goddess Bella Donna

The June Issue of "The Financial Domination Magazine" is live as well. 
This time I have covered the following Issues:

The Financial Domination Magazine June 2010 Issue Print: $19.99 Download: $9.99 The Financial Domination Magazine June 2010 Issue: Content: Page 4: How to build and establish your own personal first contact Rules! Page 9: Dealing with the regret after mindset! Page 11: The essence of foot fetish and financial domination combination. Page 14: Financial Domination World Community Page 19: Boot Service on the go (fictional fetish story) Page 33: Classified Ads Buy it now!

Let's talk a bit about contact for new seekers. When you get into this fetish either as a lifestyle or as an occassional fetish you need to set some ground rules you stick with as a Domme. Goes all back to standards really.

How much are you willing to give a new seeker before you start demanding some sort of show of appreciation? I understand fully that the first tribute question and time before you require it is a difficult one for most people.

A tricky "sub" can go years without ever making a tribute to anyone and still get off for free. We call them "Wankers", because that is all they are out for. To talk about their fantasy, without actually ever doing anything. They are the freebie hounds of the spectrum, and belief it is their right as a guy to get everything they want for free. "Hell the "Bitches" think they should get paid for nothing, right?" The problem with that sort of thinking is that we are not getting paid for nothing. Those of us who are truly into financial domination, put a lot of time and effort into all we do. Even taking the time to weed through the merit of applicants who are 80% false takes up a lot of our time and energy. Building our websites, updating our blogs to allow the boys to find us and know us a little, takes time.

Once we actually take you on and start training you, there is a lot of "behind the scenes" thought process and planning that goes on. You only see the results, you seldom get to see the process. A good Domme, is going to try to make it as exciting for her submissive as it is for her. She is not going to just take your tribute and run, but will spend time with you, for you and set specific goals for you as well. We don't get paid an hourly wage so to speak or you could never afford serving us. Quiet often a regular boy or gurl shows his apprecation via a weekly tribute which is agreed upon, but receives a lot of personal time. LOL if it was all about the money, we would be poor business women indeed, since the equivilation of it normally doesn't even come out to minimum wage after you take all the time spent into account.

In order for me to not spend too much time on "hopeless applicants" or "non-matches" I have a personal 3 contact Rule for new seekers. This is set for the benefit of only giving what I am willing to give for free to them, without any hard feelings after. Remember that the only person who can waste your time is yourself. So by sticking to my personal Rule, I never feel as if I wasted my time. A win-win for me.

Now remember those are the people who claim they wish to serve me long term and want an actual D/s relationship with me. Not just a one off. Trust me sugars, you can tell within the first 15 min. of a conversation what the boys /gurls true motivation is. So here in detail is my 3 contact Rule.

Contact #1: Make yourself known to me and an introduction period.

Since I am not a Domme to go out hunting submissives and send them emails to get to know me, you as the submissive have to come to me. I am to be woed, not do the woeing. The power balance should start right there. To me Ladies who send endless spam mails and sales pitches to submissives are not Dommes but are Fetish Cam girls for hire. Nothing wrong with that, but a different category all together.

So if you wish my attention you have to come crawling to me, introduce yourself to me and see if I am available to chat with you. Your first impression with me, will set the tone with me. I understand that manners seem to be something a lot of boys have not been required to have with the overload of online Dommes these days, but when you approach me they are a must have.

I will respond to "Hi", but you are already in the minus. That is I will respond if I feel like it. Needless to say, you are already labled by me as an unintelligent moron, who can not even put a good first sentence together.  Think of it as going to an interview, would you just walk in plop your ass down on a chair and say "HI"? If you do, you will never get that job, unless  you can change it quickly.

So a good solid first introduction is very important with me. I have covered this subject in one of my Issues of The Financial Domination Magazine. Click here to buy the March Issue covering this subject! 

Depending on how well you do, I will take a certain amount of time (usually no more then 20 min.) to ask you questions and get to know you a little. Remember that your responses and how quickly you make them, how well formulated they are etc. make a big difference.

If I feel as if you have potential, I will send you to my personal financial domination website: http://www.moneypigswanted.com if you haven't been there already to get to know more about me.  I will also invite you to a secondary contact with me, if after reading you still feel you wish to serve me.

Needless to say, only about 30% will return. When you keep things casual and are not giving them wank off material, but challenge their intelligent thinking side, it is not something freebie seekers will be interested in. Only those with actual interest come back.

Contact #2: Going a little bit deeper into knowing the person behind the name.

That usually goes for both ends. Now I want to know more about your private life, your past history with financial domination and your dreams, goals and desires. I will ask you questions about what you have read on my website and how you understood it. Now if you never went and actually read it like I told you to, it will become very apperant to me at this point. Which tells me you are only looking for the private chats, but are not really interested in getting to know anything about me. You will also be told to ask me questions. Your lack of questions for me or the questions you do ask me will further determine what your fate with me will be. This contact can last anywhere from 5 min. to 20 min. depending on how well you do, or how much time I have available at that moment.

Should you pass, I will invite you back.. If not I am going to honestly tell you that I don't feel as if we are going to get along well and send you on your way.

Contact #3: Decision making time.

If you have made it this far, you should know by now if you want to serve me or not. Obviousely I am interested, or you would already been gone. Now however comes the time to put your wallet where your mouth is, and verify your ability to tribute to me. This is the time when almost 8 out of 10 fail and / or start getting rude. Since I am not going to sit here and talk to you forever for free (don't be stupid), you will get about 5 min. to talk a little and then you will be told which show of apprecition I desire. At this point I seldom put a price tag on it, but let you decide the amount for yourself. I also inform you that if I see it in my inbox or cash equivilant online venue, we continue talking. If not you are gone. Pretty simple and straight forward. I won't accept cash in the mail promises, and if you insist on this then well you will wait until I have received it. Same goes with Amazon Wishlist purchases, since boys have a dirty habit of canceling them after.

So as you see it is all up front with me. I receive the tribute we start talking sincerly and see where you may fit in. I will give you a couple of pre-requisit assignments to fill and a deadline for them. You fill them, you will go on and start a deeper conversation and getting to know your place period. If I feel you are doing very well you will be offered UC in due time.

One thing is that only time will tell how sincere you are. I have had many boys who did really good for the first 1 to 2 weeks and suddenly started to peter out, because they were thinking that it is only fetish all the time, or just couldn't meet up with my requirements. It is a fact that anything that is new is exciting, but actually getting trained and serving the Goddess takes effort and can become a bit tedious. I mean there will be times you just don't feel like writing that text I gave you, or doing that assignment, or getting yourself on my messenger for your daily greeting to me. All that is understood, but if you want to be my slave, then you will do it regardless if you feel like it that day or not.

Being one of mine is an honor, because I do hold so many standards and hold you to them. Only sincere boys / gurls and truly submissive financial slaves will be able to stay the course.

Goddess Bella Donna

The Financial Domination Magazine – May Issue 2010The Financial Domination Magazine – May Issue 2010 (book) Print: $19.99 Download: $9.99 Welcome to the May Issue of the Financial Domination Magazine. Monthly Magazine for financial Dom/mes and submissives. This month issue includes: Page 4:You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make him/her drink! Page 9:Unspoken courtesy Rules between Dom/mes! Page 13:Hand or finger fetish – or the power is in your hands! Page 15: Bases of pony, puppy and feline play and how to use it in conjunction with financial domination! Page 19:Financial Domination and forced intox. Page 24:Fiction Story: The lost little piggy Page 27: Fictional tease: In the spiders web! Page 29: Classifieds and Announcements Page 30:Open Positions available Page 31:Upcoming Events Don't miss out, the events are a couple of competitions with prizes.

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Make sure you join soon and take advantage of the Events and competitions posted in the Magazine!

Today my dears I would like to talk to you about the importance of keeping training and draining sessions fresh. We all know that anything in the beginning is exciting and new and hence it is enough, but over time things will slowly need to progress. They need to take on new dimensions and of course grow further and deeper on both sides.

For that reason it is important to give yourself as wide a playground as possible. Financial domination is only one of hundreds of fetishes and I personally belief that you should incorporate as many of mutually interesting fetishes as possible to bring into the scene.

Now I personally love to do my training sessions from time to time via my webcam and move smoothly in between the many different fetishes I have. A training and draining session should never become stale, and as you go along while introducing new things to the sub, you as the Lady will need to use your wicked and sensual imagination to drive it along.

When the sub has given you at the beginning a list of things he finds enticing , you have a road map so to speak. Now, remember that you remain in charge at all times. Taking him down into his own personal subspace via your webcam is not at all difficult for someone who is amusing to herself and confident in her skills.

For example a lovely smoking fetish can easily be coupled with a financial draining. Same goes with tease and denial, foot and shoe as well as many other easy to do fetishes. Learn as much about your sub as possible, each time you session together.  Remember that he is like a Book you are reading. Pay attention to his responses, focus your mind on his behaviors and learn from them. Each sub gives of clues as to what makes him weaker. Use that for both of your enjoyment. Afterall, he is there because he wants to be manipulated and to be made to feel pathetic and weak. There is no shame in that, but an actual gift you are giving to him.

Make certain too that you are not just providing a service he is paying for, otherwise the powerexchange changes into the wrong direction all together.

Doing some honest discussions as to his budget and the rules of the session must be layed out clearly before the camera ever comes on as well. Mean what you say, and don't allow him to manipulate you.

I have filmed the deeper in detail clip and give some examples as to how I handle a smoking fetish and draining session combined.

Buy the clip and learn, enjoy and boys go ahead and become even more enticed.

The Financial Domination Magazine – The importance of keeping Draining and Training sessions fresh For the good of a long term D/s relationship online, it is important to keep Sessions fresh and interesting. Anything that is always the same becomes mundane and with that looses its appeal. For that reason you want to incorporate as many fetishes as possible into your arsenal of manipulative Webcam Training. Today I am talking about the various ways with personal example of how I handle this. Get this clip and learn, enjoy and yes perhaps get enticed Price: $29.99 USD Length: 23 minutes Size: 118 MB Format: WMV Category: FINANCIAL DOMINATION Added: 11/24/09 02:17:49 PM Click here to purchase clip now!

Let me take it back to the essential meaning of financial domination – male/female or it sub contributing money and gifts to ensure a better life, way of living, enhanced lifestyle and simply making life a lot more pleasant and financially easier to the “Lady” or female/male or it of superior nature in his/her/its mind. With other words the service given by a financial submissive in a tangible way to the one chosen by that person to be honored and worshiped in that manner. (Now if that wasn’t clinical and generalized enough I will spit!)
What it doesn’t mean…. Sugar Daddy or Momma! With other words, you as the submissive should never expect anything other then what she is gracious enough to wish to offer you in return. If that is as little as her “thank you” and her smile because she is happy with your contribution then you have chosen that type of person. Don’t bitch about it. However, if you think you can BUY attention, affection, SEX or that you can DEMAND anything other then what she offers in return (and believe me a lot of Ladies offer a lot more then a “thank you” and a “smile” in return if they are worth their salt) then you are not a submissive but a wanna be sugar daddy. Wrong fetish!
Now having that out of the way, let me get to the actual point of the posting.
I have noticed over the last 4 years now especially that for some reason financial submission has taken a huge turn away from that very specialized service rendered. I have seen some very ignorant posts claiming that if a Mistress/ Goddess etc opens her positions up for the subs or slaves to pay her bills she is just looking for a free ride and is just a beggar. I have been told by various “subs” that paying a bill is just not sexy and that they feel like a Domme worth her salt should be able to pay her own bills. I have heard Dominant Ladies cut others down for adding this as part of the positions available. All around I have read, seen and listened to folks on both sides of the fence dousing the “service of taking care of the Lady” as a beggary, lowly idea and more. Now that bothers me for several reasons.
1. Regardless if she can afford to pay her own bills or not, if you are a financial submissive and it is your desire to make her life easier then why are you even thinking of barking at paying one or all her bills if you can afford to? Don’t you think that doing so would enhance her lifestyle?
2. It used to be that a submissive would have taken it a personal affront if his “Lady” had to pay for anything her-self if he had the money in his pocket to take care of it for her. Now I see so called “financial subs” acting as if paying or buying something for her is a personal affront if it is not something they FEEL would excite them.
There are more points, but I am not trying to turn this into a personal bitch session.
So I watch “service” now being conditional on what the submissive thinks he ought to do and that makes me say. You are not submissive, you are a fetishist. When I hear, see or read about financial submissive males deciding what they think is good service instead of the Lady in charge making the decision of what she sees as good service then that makes me grinch.
Real meaningful service is not what is sexy, it is what makes her life better. Trust me when I say I will value a submissive that is willing to tribute to me regardless of what I CHOOSE I want tribute for. Be it my little red dress for $150 or my Electric Bill for $150. Which do you personally think will make my life easier? If I have a lousy new dress or I can spend my hard earned money any which way I choose, because my worthy and loyal sub took care of my bill for me like he should?
Let me take this even further along the line of sexy. You want your Goddess to be spoiled correct? That is hot, isn’t it? A pampered, spoiled, stress free Goddess who can enjoy her life the way she would like? Well if I have to spend 40 + hours a week working my ass off and worrying if my bills are going to be all taken care off, get so damn tired that I can barely stay awake after work, have to run home and run my household (and yes we do have households to run idiots!) and then barely have any time to relax, how spoiled do you think we really are going to be? Now, you as the sub who supposedly lives to make sure we are contend and happy, stress free and always have enough time for our-selves and YOU, should see your service in making sure she DOESN’T have to work as sexy. Now I know you boys have families, many of you boys are married and baggage. I know that most “rich” or “well off” males don’t have a Domme, they have a Mistress (the other kind – you know the woman you fuck around with and cheat on your wife with) or eye candy. They have a sugar baby. That is why we seldom only have one financial submissive, because we know one of you little piggies can never do good enough for. We understand that. We appreciate that little fact.
Now let me go for sexy from my personal point of view. When I work from 6 am until 9 pm / 7 Days a week as I often do, the last thing I feel like doing is putting up with your little dramas and fits. I don’t feel hot, sexy or even remotely interested in dealing with a pig who thinks a pair of stockings as tribute buys him 2 weeks of my time in chat and cam. Now you come on here and ask me humbly… Goddess what bills do you have due right now and how much are they, decide to pick one that you can afford covering that month and pay it for me, I now can cut my work hours for that day and pay attention to you instead. I will be more then happy, smiling and pleased. Which at that point should get your cock hard as a rock. Now you go and buy me a new red dress that is great, but I am working so damn much I won’t have the time to go out and wear it and show it off. So, yes I love it and I hang it in my closet, but in the end it didn’t make my life any easier. Just a note for you to rethink, what is really sexy as service, from this ladies point of view.
Now can I pay my own bills? YES with much hard work. Should I have to? NO!!!