Building your stable one submissive at a time.

Ah the delicious thought of having a stable of devoted submissives to train, drain, chat with, be amused by and simply enjoy. It seems so easy, simple and effortless to build such a delightful group of delicious entertainment, but often it takes a lot more thought and preparation then most will give it thought.

When considering a stable of submissives, you need to take a few things into consideration ahead of time.

Time available on your end!

Time Zones and sleeping Patterns!

How many can you emotionally handle?

Who to bring in?

What rights and say do you wish to allow your subs?

Alpha submissives or not?

Favorites or all are equal?

Disciplines and punishments!

Group meetings and worship!

Handling the loss of a submissive!

This Educational Video touches and expands on those subjects. Great for FD and regular BDSM Masters and Mistresses who consider starting a hisem, harem or stable.

You can purchase the Clip here:

BDSM Education – Building your stable one submissive at a time Building your stable one submissive at a time. Ah the delicious thought of having a stable of devoted submissives to train, drain, chat with, be amused by and simply enjoy. It seems so easy, simple and effortless to build such a delightful group of delicious entertainment, but often it takes a lot more thought and preparation then most will give it thought. When considering a stable of submissives, you need to take a few things into consideration ahead of time. Time available on your end! Time Zones and sleeping Patterns! How many can you emotionally handle? Who to bring in? What rights and say do you wish to allow your subs? Alpha submissives or not? Favorites or all are equal? Disciplines and punishments! Group meetings and worship! Handling the loss of a submissive! This Educational Video touches and expands on those subjects. Great for FD and regular BDSM Masters and Mistresses who consider starting a hisem, harem or stable. Price: $26.99 USD Length: 19 minutes Size: 105 MB Format: WMV Category: BDSM INSTRUCTION Added: 05/08/10 10:15:43 PM Purchase the clip for download at my clips4sale store.

you need to be a man first! A man by definition is a mature masculine being who has in high degree characteristics, behavioral traits and attitudes which denote a level of maturity, honor, self-assuredness, responsibility and yes even pride in his achievements.

He understands his place within society, relationships, and other social environments and does not behave in a way that brings shame to him and those he claims to care about.
He works hard, not only to better himself, but those who are taken into his heart.

He is respected, not because of the size of his cock or the fatness of his wallet, but because of the strength of his character and willingness to speak only the truth, to further his knowledge and his stability in both financial and mental aspects.

Does that sound oxymoron to you now, when taking this as a pre-requisite to being a submissive boy to a Lady of honor? If it does, then perhaps you need me to illustrate my point a little further, or you can not see those much needed traits in yourself.

As a submissive, you will undergo training of some sort. Both mentally and often physically as well, plus you will have to be able to take criticism and accept that your opinions will be questioned, challenged and yes molded. If you are one of those overgrown adolescents who has his feeling hurt every few seconds, because someone may speak harshly to you, is not constantly soothing your hurt little ego, or dares to show the backbone YOU as a MAN  should have, you are not only almost impossible to train, but at large become a huge annoyance. You see during training, your feelings will be hurt from time to time. You will be thrown for a loop. You will be placed in situations that will have crawling on the floor and begging for mercy and that is only the beginning. A man, can handle those situations emotionally and mentally as well. He will go through that particular fire with integrity and honor and emerge a stronger submissive for it. A adolescent in a grown man’s body will not, but will rather whimper, whine and strive to show his Lady in a bad light to garner sympathies from others. I am not talking about abuse here, but dealing with normal everyday life and training situations.

A submissive needs to be self-sufficient and can not rely on his Lady to hold his hand constantly. As surprising as it may seem, but most of us are not really interested in raising another son, but are rather seeking a worthy individual to amuse us, challenge us in an acceptable form, stimulate our minds. Just like yourself, we have a life, families and obligations. We also have tragedies happen from time to time, or have to deal with difficulties beyond our control. During those times, we need to be able to take care of our own needs first to heal, fix whatever situation has arisen, and work to remain mentally and emotionally stable in order to deal with you fairly and decisively. Just like you, we need to be able to take time to ourselves in order to remain well balanced and keep our energy charged. A man, can and will not only understand this, but be supportive of this. He may worry, be concerned with his Lady’s health and safety, but he would never think to place his own needs before hers. Nor would he seek to draw any negative attention to himself or her in order to find the attention he can not find within himself. His energy and time would be much better spend engaging in lucrative and self bettering activities, so he can be there and in good shape at her return. I guarantee you that a Lady will hurry back to a submissive who is not all “poor little me”, “look at me I am so hurt because you went away and left me alone” etc. A man gets all the facts before he steps out of his space first.

Does that mean a submissive should be abandoned? Absolutely not, but if a Lady is absent due to an illness, an accident or because of a death in the family, she can hardly be held to ridicule or questioning by others due to misrepresentation on the voice of a submissive. In my not so humble opinion, such would be an immediate reason for dismissal upon my return.

I have witnessed both wonderful examples of such boys on here, who remain steadfast and loyal both in thought, word and actions to their Lady. And I have witnessed shameful behavior on the part of “submissives”, who were not only way out of line, but misrepresented circumstances to make it look as if they did it only out of concern, but in reality were only seeking a Band-Aid for their hurt ego and needed attention in the wrong way.

A man knows his place and responsibilities. He also understands fully that it depends on how he claims someone as his Lady, will result in direct response as to what privileges, rights and obligations he may hold.

Someone who can not even be decisive enough to make up his mind after extended period of getting to know someone and “serving” her, to go UC or Owned does not hold the same rights for time, contact and /or information as someone who is openly taking her name, committing himself to her in service etc. Take it as in a vanilla relationship or a work environment for a second. A boyfriend or booty call has hardly the same rights as a husband. A temp worker does not receive the same benefits as a fulltime worker with a long service record. The same holds true in a D/s relationship. If you can not commit yourself to whomever you may chose, be it one Lady exclusively or a duo of Dommes, you will have to wait your turn until she finds the time and extra energy to deal with you. Which will always be at the end of her list of boys who have done what you can not or are not willing to do.

A man will challenge you and will voice his opinions honestly and proudly. However, a mature man will not do so in a way that offense on purpose or to just be contrary. He will do so in a respectful manner and with courtesy, because he desires to be treated in a manner befitting a mature male. Does that mean he doesn’t want humiliation? Of course not, but I can not humiliate a moron or adolescent idiot, because he wouldn’t even have the brain power it would take to understand when he is being put in his place. Dominating a man is ultimately more gratifying for a Lady of quality, because they both understand what a dynamic power exchange should and does look like.

Respect goes both ways, and a respectful submissive who lives to serve within in his means, is both a treasured and well respected individual indeed. Brats are a dime a dozen, they are amusing only for a short time, before a Domme will either put them on their hind legs or sets them out the front door.

Nobody likes a drama queen or a constant whiner! Nobody has the energy for poor me boys and Ladies, in the long term. If your life is so bad, step out of the scene and fix it first. And a word to the wise and I hope you heed it well, because this goes for all of us.

Nobody I have ever met has had a charmed life all the time. We all have had our feelings hurt, had our emotional and mental bruises. We each have suffered our losses each in our own ways. Now you can either use that for an excuse to why you need to be treated with kid gloves all the time, or you can buck up, grow up and get the fuck over it already.

BDSM is a realm of maturity. It is not now, nor has it ever been meant for children or adults with the reality check of a 5 year old. If you want to part of this lifestyle, you need to grow up first. That doesn’t mean you can’t have problems or a bad day from time to time, but if you constantly live in the past, are all about your hurts and  hurt feelings, you are of no use to either yourself or anyone else.

Now let me be frank, if you want to withdraw your friendship from me, because I spoke the truth harshly and openly, then you probably saw yourself in the mirror and didn’t like it too much. In that case good luck with your life and good riddance, because in my opinion you have a lot bigger problems then being hurt by what I just wrote.

A final note to this: Age, the size of your cock, or the length of how long you have been interested in BDSM has very little to do with being good submissive raw material. Every submissive needs training and often different training for each Domme he decides over the span of his life to serve. What however makes you good raw submissive material as a male is being a man first!

And since we are in financial domination as well, another quick reality check: No you are not obligated to tribute every skirt that comes your way. You should discern for yourself who you find worthy of your gift of submission and financial gifts. That being said, if you are on a financial domination website however, you should be able and willing to tribute the right Lady. If you are constantly broke, are not really into financial domination even if it is only and foremost as a sign of your worship and submission to her in a tangible way, then do yourself and all of us a favor and depart before your feelings sooner or later will get hurt. Because trust me, being known as a waste of space is not a good feeling for anyone and sooner or later that is exactly what you become. Financial domination is not for everyone! It is a very specific need and turn on, which many can not understand and no matter how many times it may get explained to them and trained into them, it becomes just another chore to amuse her and get your way. That is the wrong motivation and only hurts everyone in the end.

Food for thought!

This is no April fools joke, the new print and downloadable issue of the Financial Domination Magazine is now available for sale.

The Financial Domination Magazine – April 2010 IssueThe Financial Domination Magazine – April 2010 Issue (book) Print: $19.99 Download: $9.99 In the april Issue of this Magazine for financial Dommes and financial slaves I am covering: Page 4 “10 Simple ways to test the average newbie financial submissive.” Page 13 “Full financial Management – the ultimate control” Page 19 “For US based Dommes and subs: Greendot the perfect cash tribute solution!” Page 22 “Phone Domination – Financial Domination” Page 25 “Wild Child – Italian Sonnet written by Lilly Bastogne” Page 26 “Food for thought by Exquisite Goddess Arrion” Page 29 “The No-Limit Slave! – why limits are so important” Page 36 “Goddess worship – cuckold style (Fiction Story)” Page 42 “Open positions” Page 43 “Tribute opportunities” The Financial Domination Magazine is the advanced and in deeper detail monthly companion Magazine to "Financial Domination without the smoke and mirrors". Buy the April Issue of the Financial Domination Magazine here!

Good morning fellow Ladies and boys,

I hope this post finds you well on this fine St. Patrick's Day. Today I would like to introduce to you a few Topic Previews from the upcoming April Issue of the Financial Domination Magazine (Print) and answer a couple of questions.

The first Topic coming this months was really inspired by watching silently from the sidelines as some of our newer and even more experienced Ladies hodge bodged their way through new subs. I always watch in absolute awe as the time from first joining a website as a sub, to being owned in full standing reduces from months to suddenly hours and days. Then a little while later, the boy is back on the market and both are just a little more jaded and upset.  So what went wrong? Perhaps they jumped in without thinking first? Maybe no sort of "testing" was done?

April Issue will cover:

 "10 simple ways to test the average newbie financial sub."

 I personally always test my potential boys fairly early on, simply because it cuts out a lot of heartache on both sides. In my opinion, if a boy can not handle me when I am demanding now, he can not follow my training later either. Let me give you now the first 2 examples of some of my personal tests and if you want to see the rest you will need to purchase the Issue when it comes out for sale on April 1st 2010.

#1 The Random Questions Test:

If a boy comes to me to get to know me, or I have invited him for a chat on my personal messenger,  I usually spend some time with him, asking seemingly random questions of him. Many of them are NOT fetish related, but rather go into his personal life. His private interests and experiences etc. I may ask him a question as to his favorite color or food. About his last relationship and why it ended. I also invite him to ask me questions, which I will answer honestly. But here is where the test truly comes in. A boy who is just there to get off, will always come back to ONLY fetish related questions and even if he asks a "vanilla" question, they will still have the "fetish" overtones. A Wanker will often try to avoid or be slow to answer very private questions, claiming that he is not ready yet to give you this information. Since you are not going to ask him for his Address or SS#, that is pretty stupid. A boy who truly wants to serve you, is not going to be worried about that. Considering he should trust you enough to want to serve you to begin with, and if he trusts you enough to want to serve, then the trust to answer simple questions must be a given. Plus he will be interested in you as the Person as well and want to know the Lady behind the Title.

#2 The you don't have to do this, but I would like xyz Test:

Ok, I admit that is a bit underhanded but it shows you quicker then anything the true submissive heart or not. Usually within the first few days of talking I will bring up a small item (small meaning small priced) off one of my wishlists or something he can tribute cash for. I will let him know that it would bring me great pleasure to receive this item from him or the cash tribute, which ALWAYS will be something that is JUST FOR ME. Meaning it will not be something that would arouse him to purchase.  I also make it clear that this is not an order, but simply a request from me. Now here is where the true test is that 90% of the subs flunk. They do not understand that since I made the request, to them it should feel like an automatic Order and Privilege that I would ask something so little of them and give the great opportunity to PLEASE ME with it. You see what I mean? A good boy, will eagerly look for an opportunity to serve his Miss, to make her happy and if that means she wants that $9.00 Book from  her Wishlist, that $21.99 Pair of Shoes, the $12.99 Chocolate Giftbox, or have a $27.00 Bill paid by him, it would be an honor to hop to it. And he will do so gladly and quickly. You did notice that I kept the amounts rather small didn't you? I figure that up to $50.00 a boy should be able to afford something for his Miss at random. Of course if he has just got done spending 100's on you that is no longer necessary. I recently had a boy apply to serve me and talk very very big. How he wished he could work so hard for me and make me rich etc. Now he did tribute well enough to me, but when I tested him and asked him to pay for a small $118.00 bill (not a bill paying sub, but if he wants to make me rich what is the problem right?) so I could take the next day off and enjoy myself,  he ran. Not only did he run, but he also gave me a very lame excuse the following day, which I saw right through. So yes I think the …request test…is very necessary in weeding out the true intentions of a submissive. Serve Me or serve himself? Now an acceptable answer would be..Goddess, I would love to do it right this minute, but I do not have it right this second. I will however to do it by the morning." That is fine, as long as in the morning it is really done. Remember once a boy says he will do it, you should be able to count on his honesty and sincerity. If he promises and not follows through he is finished and gone.

Look for the other 8 Tests in the April Issue of The Financial Domination Magazine.

Full financial Management – the ultimate control

Most submissives dream of a full Ownership, but very few are well suited to it. Not only are few of the submissives fully suited to such an extreme as full financial management, but many of the Ladies are sadly not in a position to be able to take on such a HUGE responsibility either. I know, it sounds like so much fun, but you literally hold the FULL welfare of your boy in your hand.

What do I mean by full financial management anyways? In short you are his accountant and will have access to ALL his bank statements, all his income, his bills, his obligations, his credit card statements etc. It is a FULL DISCLOSURE of all his assetts and debts. Now you need to sit down and lay out a financial plan for him to make certain ALL his Bills are ALWAYS Paid on time, at times you even have full access to the full banking online and will pay them for him out of his accounts. You will make sure money is allotted for savings, for food, for hygenic items etc. and you will need to give him a small allowance which he can have for himself. Now couple that with you as the Domme having to spend an immense amount of work, time and effort on the boy, plus training him, you need to make also certain that you are being tributed fairly for all of this, but do not become greedy. The Power you hold is immense, but so is the responsibility that you do not overpower him the wrong way.

More on that in the April Issue of the Financial Domination Magazine.

For US based Dommes and subs: Greendot money pack refills – the perfect cash tribute solution.

I have no idea why so many of the financial submissives seem to want to shrink away from greendot money pack refills as their form of cash tributes and gifts to their Lady. Here is a little way of putting it in perspective for you and the reason why I personally PREFER this cash method of tributing.

Many of you boys do not wish to leave a Papertrail for your tributes, due to private vanilla obligations. Some of you do not have debit or credit cards, or claim not to. Others yet again, do not trust certain third Party Billers like alertpay and we all know that PayPal is a really scary options for most of us.

So how do you give a cash tribute which you do not send in the postal mail (which is so easily claimed lost by the boy and Lady). You physically walk into a STORE near you home or office, pick up a greendot money refill pack  and put the amount you are wishing or are ordered to tribute on it. Now yes there is a $4.95 fee for this transaction, but seriously if you are too cheap to pay that small fee in order to make your Lady happy, you are a poor excuse for a sub. Think about it this way…No matter which transaction method you use, their is ALWAYS a fee involved, and most of the time it is higher then $4.95.

Now let us take it even further, this is the so near having to hand cash over to her as possible. Here you are forced to walk into a Store (you keep the purpose in mind at all time and trust me you will be aroused), pick out the card, go to the cashier and if you are really courages, you may even say to the Cashier: " I would like to add X amount of Dollar on this Card for my Goddess". Wow what a rush!

More mind reprogramming and adjustments on how to view greendot money pack refills in the upcoming April Issue of the Financial Domination Magazine (print)

Phone Domination / financial Domination:

If you have a good boy who has served you loyally for a while, it is often automatic for most experienced Ladies to allow him phone training contact. Since he is one of ours that is natural and should be part of the training in due time. There is a very special feeling for both the Lady and the boy to be able to hear each other and connect even deeper. In those cases you usually do direct phone contact to each other. Meaning no third party is involved.

What about the flyby boys or occassional fetishists, who do not have that honor yet? Do you offer financial Domination via phone to them? I have a financial Domination Phone Line via NF, which is seldom used, but often open. Since like all my lines I keep it very clear and precise and do bring it across that I am not just a phone sex operator, but a real Domme, who will not sit here and take your BS, most fetishists do not want to go that route. Remember that many of them are just out for the fantasy, not the actual service when the call a Phone Line like NF.

I see a lot of boys talking big smack about ALL Phone DOMINATION Lines are just Actresses and fakers. Now honestly I find that extremely offensive, since I am certainly not one of them. And when you say ALL then you heap me into it as well. I do offer Phone Financial Domination via Pre-pay option as well, in which I call the boy on a preset appointment and drain and train him that way. But again….

More in the April Issue of the Financial Domination Magazine.

As usual I will include 1 fetish fantasy Story in the issue as well and the deadline for you Ladies to add any Advertisement is March 30th. So write to me with your advertisment fees and the information at GoddessBellaDonna@cox.net if you would like to be included in the issue.

Now to answer a frequently asked question:

Goddess Bella Donna do you still mentor or give workshops for new Dommes?

The answer is yes on both accounts, but I no longer mentor for free. I do have a couple of Ladies for whom I have done this for free for a while now and who have been appreciative of my efforts on their own account. But since most Ladies seem to have an entitlement attitude and assume I should automatically do this for them and give them ALL my knowledge without anything in return, I have decided to make it a lot simpler.

I do offer chat mentoring via my Yahoo messenger and in some cases Phone as well, but the minimum amount I will charge you is $200 a month. No I won't do it for cheaper sorry.

Workshops are available on a weekend bases at my location. You will need to rent a Motel Room, you are not going to be staying at my house. My workshops usually run from Friday to Sunday from 11 am to 4 pm each day, and will include basic BDSM information as well. Hands on training etc.
My Workshops for the Weekend are $1800 for one person, or if you want to bring your subby boy-friend or husband with you to learn bondage, flogging, waxing etc on him, then the cost is $2500. I do require a 50% deposit at the time you book the appointment.

Well darlings I hope you have learned something new. Make sure you purchase the back issues if you haven't done so yet, and the new upcoming April Issue of my Magazine.

Your truly

Goddess Bella Donna

I just cleaned out my Temple again and in this case, I thought what a wonderful teaching tool this time will be. In this case no less then 6 fucktards have gotten my powerful AXE in their asses. Say good bye to loser slut victim who did not think that Ownership was important enough to stop slutting around behind my back. I always find out! Maggot Brains who lied, Sebastian who really screwed up in a major way and a few others.

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6 Boys gone – insight to reasons for instant dismissal! Part of financial domination is just as in any other BDSM Area the point of seperation or dismissal. It is a sad happenstance when it is due to instant dismissal, and can often be very upsetting for the Lady who has put a lot of effort and time into you as well. Goddess tells you what causes her to clean out her Temple on the example of her 6 most recently dismissed boys. Listen closely and learn from their mistakes. This is also a great learning clip for those of you who wish to serve me. Price: $35.99 USD Length: 29 minutes Size: 291 MB Format: WMV Category: FINANCIAL DOMINATION Added: 12/23/09 07:15:05 PM Click here to buy this important clip now!

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It may sound a bit strange to you boys at first, but I belief that each of Ladies take on a certain "Archtype" when we develop into our own path. Yes, you have heard me correctly, we develop into our personal best beings and that evolution hopefully is never fully done. It is a sad state of affairs when a Domina decides to stop evolving and growing better or adding other skills and interests to her list of things to do.

Part of what makes a great Dom/me in my personal opinion is that they never stop learning, growing and settling into their own personal power. Don't forget that we each are human beings just like you, with some not so fantastic personality traits and at times thought processes. I dare say that to be realistic you are aware and should find out her / his fears, goals, dreams and limits as well. Afterall you are not just serving part of who she is, but the full sum of her/him.

Now today I wanted to introduce the different "Archtypes" of the Domme (Financial and often other as well). Understand that to me, each of them has a place in financial domination and must be available, because she fills the void of one or the other of the submissives/ fetishes/ boys out there. Read or better yet purchase the Videos, to fully understand who she is and whom you may find the most attractive for you.

I would like to start out with what I call the Maiden of the entire group. She is pretty much the little crown princess who is spoiled, adorable and can get her way simply on the merit of her youth, body and well yes greed. I am talking of course about the "bratty Princess or spoiled Princess" type. Hopefully this type is exclusive to the younger Dominas (Age 18 until around 24). After that it just gets a little forced and well not quiet as attractive or believable any longer. To me the Princess has the enticement of "well she is still so young" and "oh look at her, who could resist such a hot chick" charm. Often she as very little real responsibility in life yet, a throng of boys running after her and essentially reminds you of Daddy's little girl or the Cheerleader you all were hot for. For more on her get my Video Lesson: The Allure of the Bratty Princess

Hopefully at one point or the other, as nature requires it she will step up and outgrow the finger flipping, toe stomping attitude and mature into one of the other Archtypes.

The Lady is the sophisticate of the Archtypes. She is the elegant and often very allusive Domme, who you will seldom hear utter a dirty word in public. Her words are always dripping with class and she can make you feel like a worm simply by looking at you. The Lady has a way of making full grown CEO's sweat and sit up just a little bit straighter. She is the Socialite in many ways you would find at Balls, at gatherings of the more elite groups of life. She truly is the Lady High Society. Find out more about her and what it would take to serve such a lovely Lady, purchase the Video Lesson: The Enticement of the Lady!  

To me the Title Mistress really always has been more of a catch all phrase. In a way, it has been dirtied by the minds of cheating husbands, who have "mistresses" on the Side. For some reason it also the Title most chose from the beginning, as to conjure up the image of the whip swinging, tough Bitch in Leather and Latex. She is the no-nonsense tough broad who doesn't mind putting you on your heels without thinking twice about it. I guess in many ways she is the adult version of the all about me  Princess type. I have found that the sadists mainly reside in this category as well. If you enjoy quick punishments, strong hands and a short span of attention for your BS, then you may want to go that route. I do advice you to ask more questions of her however, since her range can go from 0 to Hero. With other words, as I said the catch all of new to old. Simply ask.

The Goddess divine is the Creatoress. To me she is a very strict and caring Domina, who essentially takes you and reshapes you into something worth having. Now she is the one whom you worship in a very respectful manner. The Lady who takes the Title of Goddess usually has some very strict rules and is often not the easiest of them to serve. The Goddess has to have a very strong ego and is often someone you fear just a little. I would say she has many attributes of the Lady, but instead of always being refined, she doesn't mind getting her hands dirty. Since I am a Goddess I had the easiest time giving you examples and have combined it all on; The Goddess – She who creates you, the one you worship!

I would suggest you purchase all 3 of those Videos, really listen closely and even replay it a few times. Then ask yourself the following questions:

#1 Which one of them do I find myself most drawn to?

#2 Can I handle the base requirements of the Archtype?

#3 Do I feel myself aroused mentally simply by listening to their description?

#4 How do I see myself in her Realm? What do I belief would be my function?

#5 How much can I afford to get involved into this Archtype? Can I handle it financially, emotionally and yes physically as well?

I have opened a Membership Section for "The Financial Domination Magazine" as well in which I am posting Photos, Clips (some of the ones from the Store, as well as memories of some of my Piggies and what we have done together retold in my Blog or via Webcam recordings, as well as Fantasy Stories told by me via Webcam blogs).

I have set the Membership at $19.99 a month for now since I am only starting it out. Why don't you take a look and join?

Ever so often I have someone come onto my yahoo Messenger with not only an attitude, but also the idea that just because they like the way I look they will now start serving me. Further more they think that serving me, means blowing verbal sunshine up my beautiful behind. Then when I don't swoon over such foolish advances, I get rudeness. After putting them in their place, takes about 30 seconds usually, because really they don't get allotted much more time then that from me having already struck out twice at that point I get the next "fishing" question. What is next? So how do I serve you?
In order to solve this problem once and for all, allow me to simply give you my STEP BY STEP GUIDE to successfully wooing and serving THIS GODDESS. Please keep in mind that each one of us has a different style, a different set of requirements and often times a different public facade. I simply prefer to lay it all out on the table ahead of time. I don't need to play nice up to possible servants. Those who can not take my bluntness, my demands won't be able to last me out anyways. So why waste my time, with someone who will not make me happy? Again, I am in it for ME, not to give you free spank you monkey time. Sorry, but Goddess Worship combined with strict financial slavery is not about (wait for it and insert space for dramatic effect here), blowing sunshine up your ass guys. I leave the making excuses for the boys to others now, I did my part in the past. Right now I am a bit busy, but try again next lifetime. So if you want to actually really serve me, let me repeat that statement, IF YOU ACTUALLY WANT TO REALLY SERVE ME, not just waste both of our time or be a fly by, then read those step by step instructions carefully.
1. Before approaching me on Yahoo Messenger or via email, do your homework first! With other words, actually know what you want from me before coming on, trying to be sleek. I am an old hand at this game boys. I have been bullshitted by boys much sleeker then you. No more, hence the cold shoulder now. Homework is such a hard word for many of you, so you can also call it research if you like. This research should include: Knowing what areas of BDSM you are actually interested in. If financial Domination is not for you, don't come to me. MY TIME COSTS MONEY PERIOD! If you prefer to pay for counseling instead we can call it that, but then I will charge you by the minute period. See LIVERPERSON! Figure out what you have to offer me and that includes all your gifts you lay before me. Your loyalties, your talents, your thoughts, your intelligents and your material tributes you will be providing me with. RESEARCH ME! For Goddess sakes, before spouting off at the mouth, find out who I am, what interests me, what I have done. It is all there! All over the internet. It is basic 101 for service. YOU SHOULD want to know everything you can before kneeling. If you come to me, stating that you have only seen my website http://www.GoddessBellaDonna.com and you are only there because your insignificant cock is now hard, you already lost my interest! Amaze me, tell me things you learned about me. My vanilla writing, my other websites etc. Show me that you are actually interested in the Goddess, not just getting your damn dick off. YOUR COCK is only interesting to me when I torture it! PERIOD!
2. Now let us say you been a good boy and have done your research and have actually something interesting to tell me. By all means contact me! INSIDE MY PIGGY HEAVEN! There is a lovely chat room you can reach only via the front entrance and via your sign in. (Don't bookmark it, it is set up that you have to go through the front entrance each time so those who are not paying further can't reach it after their time is up). Which means you will need to verify to me that you are at least 18 Years old and that you are able to tribute. You may use the $39.99 a months option if you like or a one time tribute for $50.00, but regardless you will not get my time after I have ordered you to join Piggy Heaven outside of the Chat room until I get to know you. You see how easy that is? Now you are age verified and spending verified to me. PLUS you guys get clips, photos, mp3's etc. I am not asking you for your cash without giving you a lot in return here. Once you have signed up you can come to Yahoo Messenger and let me know you are there, and I will join you if I am available at that moment, or I may just wait for you inside. Either way, it is on my time not yours! If you can not join Piggy Heaven for whatever personal reason, maybe you are scared your significant other will find out, then don't come empty handed to me! Bring me a token Tribute at base minimum. Make certain it is something I WANT not something you think I should have. Can't figure out what that is? ALERTPAY.com (CASH) to shalamarsdream@cox.net if always great and my first preference. Alertpay is just like PayPal, they just don't have the no adult clause. (OH and I should warn you that if you EVER CANCEL your Tribute you are done with me Period). AMAZON.COM E-Certificates to GoddessBellaDonna@cox.net is fine as well. GREENDOT MONEY PACKS give me the numbers and they better be good. Outside of that, I love E-Giftcards to just about any Book store, EBAY, BED & BREAKFAST Company etc. You have enough choices here!
3. Now you have shown me you are able and willing to tribute, and it is time to get to know me. Inside my Piggy Heaven are also my open online and real time positions listed which I have currently available. Pick one if you would like and apply for it to me. Be prepared to answer me questions. Don't give me standard text book answers either. I want to know what you have to say for yourself, not what someone else wrote down for you.
4. From there it goes on a case to case basis. If you are purely money piggy, expect to be drained whenever I feel like it.
OH and before I forget it. If you decided to be one of those that disappear a lot from service without saying good bye, or letting me know what is going on. You will find that I can be very strict and very demanding if you return. So if you don't have manners, don't come to me in the first place.
If you are married, then be aware that females are only so stupid for so long. You will run the risk of ruining your marriage, don't come crying to me when you do. YOU BETTER BE SURE you can serve me fully and keep your home running properly before coming to me. I have no mercy or regards for fuck ups.
NOTE: I will be cross posting this on my Goddess Bella Donna Temple Blog, and several other places. So don't start commenting that you saw it somewhere else. I have about 15 Websites, it is very possible you saw it somewhere else. It however better have had the names Goddess Bella Donna, Mysteria or Regina Sunderland under it or it is not legit.
As always my words are not to be posted anywhere else without the proper link to me, and credit to my Name. This is intellectual property!

Nobody likes Spam right? I am talking about the mass emailings to dozens or even hundreds of unsuspecting people. This is at best highly annoying when it is done for a vanilla oriented business, but when it is done by either Domina, Dom or submissive with an almost stock text at that, then it doesn't become just annoying, but down right credibility damaging!
Yes, I know, here I go again with credibility. Don't I have anything else on my mind? Well, when it comes to a new to you sub or Domina, that is pretty much all you have to go on to begin with.
How does she/he represent her/himself in public, in writing, in actions to promises made? Since you don't know this person in real time yet, probably have just watched her from afar for a while, you only have her actions to go on. The same by the way goes for the submissive.
Now I know what you are thinking! How can I tell people otherwise that I am interested in finding either that "paypiggy" or the "Domina that makes me weak"? You have many ways for doing that, but spamming accounts is not the way to do it.
To me all that says is pathetic, desperate and not very imaginative to boot. Of course you can have emails with people, you are supposed to email with them, have little chats via your messenger or on the phone. You do need to get to know those who have gathered your interest, but that does not mean you need to follow the lines of the SexBlog ADS you get into your email constantly.
Personally for me that is a hit delete and block action. I hear about Domina's in this specific category for some reason doing it a lot, but the funny thing is what doesn't get spoken off as much are the submissives doing it as well.
I can guarantee you from first hand experience that this is so. With the exact same weasily, over the top text at that. Now, I can not speak for other ladies of course since I am purely myself, but I can tell you that this has not only raised my eyebrows but made me take potential boys I may have had some interest in go off my list.
You have just shown me that:
#1 I am not one bit important and you don't find me as particularly special, but would rather serve any skirt that comes along. What is there in it for me? Nothing, because you will slut around as soon as you have any expectation brought towards you.
#2 You can not be trusted. You don't even trust yourself enough to be noticed or to write a single Note to a special and worthy lady. Why would I want something that is so insignificant to begin with?
Now let us forward that to the Ladies for a second. If I, as the Domina, feel like that about the guys when they pull their mass emailings on me, what do you supposed it says about you as a Mistress?
#1 I am desperate and really dont' care about you in particular. I just want to make some quick money and then you can get lost.
#2 I have nothing important to say. With other words, I am not only too stupid to write something of worth anywhere that would garner attention from someone, but I am also too lazy to put any real effort into this.
#3 I think that you are not smart enough to figure me out.
Ok, some guys love being persued and enjoy the Mistress taking the initiative. There is nothing at all wrong with that either, but to be honest you really have had something at one point that interested me besides your money that I send you a first email. In that case you better feel very honored.
To me however it is more about letting the guys come to me. I am still and will always be the Goddess. The Goddess doesn't force herself on guys, that would make her nothing less then a little gutter slump. If you are wonderful, powerful and intelligent enough you won't have to worry. It may take a while, before the submissive males will find you and approach you, but just like any other "religion", when they do they will either get hooked on you in a hurry or be gone in a hurry.
What surprises me is that it is most of the time the Barbie Dolls who think they have to do the over saturation. Trust me sweey, with your looks, your big breasts they will find you. It may not be for submission at first, but if you have the power you claim you have in your mind and not in your left nipple, then they will learn their lesson quickly. You have nothing to worry about.
A word again to the submissive males and females. Take a look at the Domina's first and then decide who you think might be worthy of your gift of submission. Remember that you will have to put in quiet a bit of service, time and yes tributes. We are talking about financial domination. Instead of sending out tons of meaningless emails to Mistresses you probably won't even remember the name from select carefully. Then approach with respect instead of overly done flowerly words.
If you are not known for being a Spam Artist, I will already know that you are interested in serving me. That you have decided that I COULD be the ONE that you could be happy serving. Instead of asking me about what I can do for you (you are already out), give me some general background on yourself.
Who are you? How old are you? Where are you from? Are you single, married, divorced have 12 kids by 10 different women? Are you employed and if yes what is it you do? I don't want figures, I just want to know that yes you are able to actually serve me in ALL ways I desire and not just with words.
What are your interests, both BDSM/ Fetish and Vanilla. We won't always be talking about fetish to each other, is there something we have in common?
End your Note friendly and respectful, but not over the top. Now if you have impressed me as both intelligent and worthy of my time, I will respond back. If not, you will be either ignored completely (if you acted like a dumbass) or you will get a friendly, I am sorry but I dont' think this would work for us with an explanation why.
Remember, that just because you are a Domina or a sub, means that the other end has to be impressed and overcome with honor at your contact.
Spam Artists get blocked, lose their credibility and in the end lose out on a lot of higher end quality people. It takes a bit of real effort in this lifestyle / fetish to make a good match.
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This is probably one of the most widely debated and argued about subject in financial fetish / domination. Everyone has a different view on this subject and once again I can only give you my opinion on the matter and the reasons behind it. Yes, don't you find it fascinating that I can actually sit here and tell you why I consider something as "the thing to do" instead of simply telling you …"Because I said so!"
If you would be at my feet right now, you would see a very warm smile coming over my face. That statement didn't go well with any of us when we grew up, so why should it work now?
To me a first Tribute is a two part show of faith and ability by the submissive towards the Mistress/Master whom he/she had chosen to serve. You have to understand that there are so many charlatans out there, and with the Internet being so wide ranged it has gotten even worst, that truly I believe very few anything anymore.
Before you, the submissive pipe up and tell me that is why you don't believe you should be required to tribute the person until you are satisfied that this person knows what they are doing and you have talked to them for a long long time, let me explain it like that. You would not go to a Doctor and say. I will not pay you until you have performed the surgery, have done ALL the work and then when I feel healthy again I will pay you. Maybe!
Now, here is my personal input on this. First of all, take a look around and pay attention. If this person is on the internet and you are embarking on an online only internet based financial domination servitude then it is reasonable to say that the lady in question should have SOMETHING up somewhere.
Now not everyone is as extensive as I am, because well I did make this and other areas of BDSM my 24/7, which means I devote a lot of time into not only my submissives, my piggies and acolytes, but also do work like this in teaching about it for those of you who are new and trying to find their way around. I made this my 24/7 because I love what I do. It is my life quiet literally and I do enjoy my submissives, piggies and acolytes to an extend that many couldn't even imagine. It is a wonderful feeling to wield this sort of power and understanding, to be adored not for your looks alone but your wisdom.
However, as I said, each Lady or Gent who is claiming to be a Dom/me would have at least something out there. (Remember I am only talking online now) be it a Blog they update regularly, a website which reflects their personality or even (gulp) a Niteflirt account at worst.
(Eh GBD, you have a Niteflirt account too why did you gulp?)
Well, truthfully because I had my own phonelines hooked up, but had actual so called submissives rip me off on the phone charges so I returned to NF, which really does not have the best of reputations for being legit for domination.)
So before you went googoo gagga over them, you should have already done some homework and have gotten a bit educated. I personally hold it that I will give you a little bit of my time, but it truthfully depend on how you act, how you speak to me and if you are amusing in any other way then just with your money how much time you receive from me before I SUGGEST you show me that you are able to uphold a full service to me.
You saw the word SUGGEST, because at this stage I want to see how you react. At that point I also don't put an amount on the first Tribute. This is the ball purely in your court.
You would be surprised just how many oh so eager subs are already out on stage #1, because this is where I hear the first of many excuses. Suddenly either their wife or GF is coming into the room, they don't feel comfortable tributing because they are not certain this is what they wanted, they just wanted to talk to me. They can't afford my Tribute requirements. Their credit card is maxed out. They don't have a credit card. The list goes on and on and on. It actually becomes rather amusing at this point, because now I am guessing which of the 100 Excuses the sub will use.
As you already noticed I did Suggest not demand and did not put an amount on the first Tribute. MMM, so how can you not afford it.
I have let many of subs go with the final remark to them.
"You just showed me that you have no intention on tributing and that you are not able to serve. I did not tell you an amount. You could have simply tributed $10 the way I asked you to do it and I would have seen you are not only able, but also willing. Instead you came up with excuse after excuse when it came to pleasing me! Sorry, but I am not interested in being your entertainment or clown. You have misunderstood the idea of service."
As you see, it really wasn't as much about the amount as it was about the eagerness and willingness to do it. Of course as time progresses the amount will reflect, but in the beginning not so much.
When should a sub send his first Tribute? Well, really that depends on what he is trying to accomplish with me. I usually find those willing to give their respect and appreciation of me before they contact me as much more worthy of my fullest attention. But then again as I said, I give a lot without any repayment of sorts. You can get tons of information on me and from me, without me ever knowing you are even there. FREE of Charge, just like that article. Now I would of course be very happy and pleased with a submissive who would go to the side Panel and click the donation button and put any amount in. $5.00, $10.00, $20.00 or $100.00 , it simply shows me that you have appreciated the time I have taken out of MY DAY to talk to you.
But let us be honest, that happening is very seldom and a rare financial fetishist who simply does things like that because it would bring pleasure to me. Yes, those donations out of the blue truly make my day, because they show me that there are still those out there who appreciate wisdom and do want to serve for the sake of service.
So the most common scenario would be within the first 3 meetings. After you have spoken to me a couple of times and have gotten a feel of who and how I am. Will I give you hours of my time? No, I will not. Will I drop everything I am doing for you? No, I will not. But I will chat with you a bit, casually and just talk to find out who or what you are. Keep it simple, keep it casual and answer my questions. If you have questions that I have not already answered 1 million times all over the internet then ask me straight forward. However, and I am very clear on that count, if you are coming at me with turn you on fetish talk purely and it keeps coming back to it, then you will not be suggest but demanded to tribute. In that case a minimum Tribute of $50 to $100 is appropriate as far as I am concerned.
We are not on a coin operated clock. If you have already tributed to me several times and come on the messenger don't be afraid to greet me even if you don't have money that day. I already know that you are willing and able, and I know you can't do it all the time.
But, and here is the but, I do expect you to do it again when and as soon as you can. If you wish to serve me then that is part of it. But that doesn't mean we can not talk.
Those who have shown me that they are happy to do so, and yes I will gauge your reactions to it as well, are well on their way to finding a good spot in my Temple.
Think realistically for a second. In your vanilla life, who will you give more attention, time and interest to? Someone that is just a dead weight in your life or someone that has actually shown some worth to you? Someone that is always making promises and wants to take all your time up without giving you anything in return, or someone who is eager and happy to have it a two way street?
Well, there you go that should explain a lot. Again, I hear after you get to know that person well a lot. Well here is my problem with that one. You can deal with a person for dozens of years and still never get to know that person well. That truly is a cop out for me.

I am going to try to do this as delicately as I can and yet still stay honest and straight forward. Financial Mistresses can fall prey to the economic crises just as easily as every other person out there. Since most of us are either luxury pets *that I what I call those that claim not to work for a living and just live of their subs and live in the lap of luxury*, are hard working folks by day and financial Mistresses by night, are Pro-Mistresses who may love what they do but make their living with their lifestyle, or are Entrepreneurs who are largely depended on the economy for their income, the economy will and does affect our livelihood directly.
I get so tired of Idiots sitting there and making the statement, that a money Mistress in financial straights or problems has not right to call her-self a financial Domme. I have one thing to say to you on that one, I hope for your sake that you never lose your job, your income or your home. These days all that can go from one second to the next.
I for one am an Entrepreneur, I make my money largely of the Sale of my writing (both articles and my self published books), my Websites both Adult and Non-Adult, my Clips4Sale Store, and my online counseling as well as Phone domination. Couple that with Pro-Sessions and financial domination. As you see for me each of my Venues is dependent on the economy doing well, people having extra leisure income and companies not being or going broke. I started unwittingly going freelance at the onset of the recession and really never fully had time to get my name of the ground as a writer, so now I am naturally stuck in the in between. Think publishing houses, who would you rather give your spare budget to? A guaranteed seller with a name or a newcomer?
I am not a Supermodel in looks, am as real as they come and have the benefit of many years of experience, which will make me also extremely intimidating to most, as well as more demanding. Why? Because I can be demanding, since I bring a lot to the table in return. I do not claim to be a Kindergarten Mistress, but fully speak out in the open about ALL my experiences, which is another thing that makes a lot of bois not only uncomfortable but fearful to get lost in me. (foolish really since that is exactly what they should be wanting – getting lost in my will). What does that have to do with this subject? Simply stated that these Days there are many who are just like me. We work hard in our various chosen fields to make our bills. There are times we make them and other times we can’t, just like everyone else.
But what about all those high money Tributes to the Amazing Goddesses we always read about? What about them? At times they are real, at times they are a fluke and they happen, but most of the time a $1000 and up tribute these days is something that comes seldom. Then the money is usually tied up in some sort of Gift Card, E-Certificate etc which means in the end the sub controls what the Mistress gets to spend the gift on. Doesn’t sound very submissive to me. Think about it, if I want $200 to make a payment for something I want and I need it in cash and you send me a Gift Certificate to a shoe store, then it really doesn’t do me much good.
But what about all the Tribute Porn I see all the time? Tons of photos some of these ladies have of Jewelry they receive, shoes they get bought for them, hands full of cash they hold with their middle finger up in the air and pig so and so having tributed?
Well to be honest, I am not saying that this couldn’t be the truth, but have you ever heard of things being staged?
Look the thing is simple. A lot of bois have the misunderstanding that if a Mistress has a lot of pigs, gets a lot of presents, is constantly taking exotic vacations, gets handfuls of money and is spoiled she is a great money Mistress. I mean the proof is right there!
The simple fact is that, there may be some that have been lucky enough to find a rich submissive that can keep them in style, may have a couple well to do subs that don’t mind spending the money, but most of us don’t. So knowing the psychology of easy to fool bois they stage it.
Anyone can go to the bank withdraw $1500 before they pay their Rent and bills and then hold it in their hand like a fan. But the caption…last nights haul on it, take the photo and done. Now you can take your own money back and pay your bills. To the bois is looks as if …hey she took it rich, and try to give. She must be good.
Gifts of Amazon Gift Lists are the same way. I can fill this stuff up and purchase my own stuff. You can’t see who bought it. So when I see a list that is constantly empty, I as a Business Woman start questioning it.
My question is, should a Mistress that is so obviously not needing you and who will just laugh at you without any remorse be so much more deserving of your service then one that works hard for what she has and is a human with worries like everyone else?
To me, and granted that may be because I am one of them, I would think that giving gifts, cash tributes to someone that works hard at what she does, that is more appreciative of what you give and is willing to reward you and appreciate you in return, would be not only a wiser choice but also the more arousing one as a sub.
At least you know you are really making a huge difference in her life.
What I do not agree with is the deceit so often perpetrated by so many of my fellow Ladies. If you are in as much financial strain as everyone else, have to work double hard to make your bills etc, why pretend that you are so much above everyone else? Is that what bois really want? If you do, then you are setting yourself up to be scammed and in my eyes have your rude awakening coming.
Think about this as well! How can a financial Domme be getting rich, if the average Joe does barely have enough money to pay his own bills these days. Will the bois take from their bill money to give it to her? If they do, should she allow them to do this? I leave you with that…Think about it for yourself.