Dealing with rudeness in our fetish!
Friday, June 24th, 2011Financial Domination along with a few other hard to understand fetishes seems to bring out the rudeness in some people. I would like to give you a wonderful example of this in one of the fetish groups on Facebook:
copy and paste:
This was the original post I placed this morning in the group.
Good morning fellow Ladies and submissive gentlemen. A thought for the day for you. Be true to yourself, don’t let others steal the smile from your face. The universe has enough for all of us. We have no reason to picker, fight or be rude to each other. Power doesn’t come from “showing off”, it is seated deep within yourself. Nobody c…an take that away from you. A submissive male has deep and strong inner core as well. It takes true courage to submit honestly and without pretenses to the one person he adores. Rudeness, speaking ill to others, only shows you in a sad and unpleasant light. Nobody should need to seek attention at all cost, even at the cost of their honor.
And this is what a so called submissives response to it!
Mark Pigbrown Bella Shut your fuckin trap you fat cunt
about an hour ago ·
Truthfully there was only one response to give besides ignoring this heckler:
Bella Donna Point and case made – thank you Mark! It is guys like you who really make he glad I only deal with men!
End copy and paste!
The truth is that there was nothing in the original posting which should have set this guy off. Unless he hated hearing what rude and obnoxious behavior makes him and others like this look like. He has nothing but rude comments period to say on the group and simply joined in order to try to set the Ladies off and put them on defense.
Personally I think that is the worst reaction you can display when you deal with guys like this who obviously have no life outside of the internet. Calling people out of their names, making derogatively comments to their body size, age or gender etc only shows me (and should you) that they have the intelligence of a Kindergarten child.
When I deal with submissive men I expect them to have grown past this stage. I personally do not allow myself to be bullied, upset by comments about my appearance or age. When all that ever comes out of someones mouth or finger tips is hate speech and rudeness I must assume that they truly are miserable.
Those types of guys are all around us sadly. We deal with them on the internet, we deal with them in our regular vanilla life, and we deal with them at work places. Those types of guys seem to think that they have a right to try to make others feel miserable or to try to make them think less of them-selves. Females by nature do get hurt emotionally easier than men do. At least that is the theory.
Yet once you step into the fetish fields you need to learn to grow a much tougher skin. You need to realize that you will be goaded, you will be attacked and you will be made fun off on an almost constant base. Once you start putting things into perspective however it is a lot harder to make someone upset.
Let’s see I was called a fat cunt right? Well in comparison to a Lady of a size 4 I am most definitely fat. But to me that is not necessarily an insult. Why? Because there are millions of men out there who appreciate and worship a “fat” woman. It also means that at least I am successful enough in all my endeavors to be able to buy the food I enjoy and able to feed my big fat belly. LOL.
To being a cunt – Lord now there is a newsflash! Le gasp – it is guys like that who have turned me into a cunt at times. I will be the first one to admit to that. So no insult taken.
When you Ladies deal with guys who only come on to annoy you and hurt your feelings you really need to consider the source. Does this person even really matter? Do you know him? Will you ever break bread with him? Does he pay your bills?
I would say the answer to any of those questions will be a solid NO. So he is just a name on a site, who more and likely will never be able to make anything out of himself or have a healthy relationship with any woman worth her salt.
There are two ways you can respond. Thank him for the supposed insult because really he didn’t make you look bad only himself. Or you can ignore him from there on out. You see those types of guys NEED attention! They can’t gain any in real life, can’t buy any because truthfully they most of the time really don’t have money, and they can’t guilt trip a woman into it.
In all my years of being in BDSM and Fetish and gee since 1992 that is a nice spot of years I would say, I have been called just about every name in the book.
Let me give you a little funny. I have been called a fucking whore over and over again for what I do by morons who really have a very limited imagination if that is the worst thing they can call a woman. Every time someone calls me that I disolve in a fit of giggles, because years and years ago I had a tattoo put on my pussy mount that reads exactly that; “WHORE”. I enjoy a very healthy sexual appetite and a more than satisfying sex life. I don’t have sex with any of my submissives ever by my personal choice. When I was much much younger I worked in a Brothel and I supported my than small children with the income I provided with my body. So by calling me a whore you are hardly insulting me. I think it is funnier than hell, who should be more humiliated? The trick who has to pay for it or chooses to pay for the sexual favors of a woman or the woman who gets paid for something others give away without much thought. So when someone calls me a whore now, I laugh at them. If they push me further I simply state: Well ok, doesn’t matter so does it, because you could never afford me to begin with!
Another lovely word that those types of guys love to throw at women are “old hag!” Normally at women who are barely in their late 30′s. Ok let me look at it again like that. If a woman in her late 30′s is an old hag to you, than I suppose you have to be mentally stunted at the age of around 8. Because that is usually when anything over 20 seems ancient to them.
A dictionary give us the following definition of the word hag:
1. An old woman considered ugly or frightful.
Needlessly to say this is what they are trying to call us when they do it. Yet the forget the other 2 definitions which I personally find absolutely delightful and completely own.
2. a. A witch; a sorceress.
Bingo boys! I am actually a Witch in my spiritual path – thank you so much for noticing. And the older I get the more powerful I grow. You are just simply to kind.
b. Obsolete A female demon.
You see what I mean. Just look at the less than silly intelligent comments those types of guys make and really look at them from a positive point of view. (There always is one) AFter you do that, you won’t be able to help yourself but want to thank them for the wonderful compliments they just gave you and feel pretty good about yourself.
Have a lovely day darlings and always remember…. knowledge is power! It is really hard to insult a smart woman!
And this is what a so called submissives response to it!
Mark Pigbrown Bella Shut your fuckin trap you fat cunt
about an hour ago ·
Truthfully there was only one response to give besides ignoring this heckler:
Bella Donna Point and case made – thank you Mark! It is guys like you who really make he glad I only deal with men!
End copy and paste!
The truth is that there was nothing in the original posting which should have set this guy off. Unless he hated hearing what rude and obnoxious behavior makes him and others like this look like. He has nothing but rude comments period to say on the group and simply joined in order to try to set the Ladies off and put them on defense.
Personally I think that is the worst reaction you can display when you deal with guys like this who obviously have no life outside of the internet. Calling people out of their names, making derogatively comments to their body size, age or gender etc only shows me (and should you) that they have the intelligence of a Kindergarten child.
When I deal with submissive men I expect them to have grown past this stage. I personally do not allow myself to be bullied, upset by comments about my appearance or age. When all that ever comes out of someones mouth or finger tips is hate speech and rudeness I must assume that they truly are miserable.
Those types of guys are all around us sadly. We deal with them on the internet, we deal with them in our regular vanilla life, and we deal with them at work places. Those types of guys seem to think that they have a right to try to make others feel miserable or to try to make them think less of them-selves. Females by nature do get hurt emotionally easier than men do. At least that is the theory.
Yet once you step into the fetish fields you need to learn to grow a much tougher skin. You need to realize that you will be goaded, you will be attacked and you will be made fun off on an almost constant base. Once you start putting things into perspective however it is a lot harder to make someone upset.
Let’s see I was called a fat cunt right? Well in comparison to a Lady of a size 4 I am most definitely fat. But to me that is not necessarily an insult. Why? Because there are millions of men out there who appreciate and worship a “fat” woman. It also means that at least I am successful enough in all my endeavors to be able to buy the food I enjoy and able to feed my big fat belly. LOL.
To being a cunt – Lord now there is a newsflash! Le gasp – it is guys like that who have turned me into a cunt at times. I will be the first one to admit to that. So no insult taken.
When you Ladies deal with guys who only come on to annoy you and hurt your feelings you really need to consider the source. Does this person even really matter? Do you know him? Will you ever break bread with him? Does he pay your bills?
I would say the answer to any of those questions will be a solid NO. So he is just a name on a site, who more and likely will never be able to make anything out of himself or have a healthy relationship with any woman worth her salt.
There are two ways you can respond. Thank him for the supposed insult because really he didn’t make you look bad only himself. Or you can ignore him from there on out. You see those types of guys NEED attention! They can’t gain any in real life, can’t buy any because truthfully they most of the time really don’t have money, and they can’t guilt trip a woman into it.
In all my years of being in BDSM and Fetish and gee since 1992 that is a nice spot of years I would say, I have been called just about every name in the book.
Let me give you a little funny. I have been called a fucking whore over and over again for what I do by morons who really have a very limited imagination if that is the worst thing they can call a woman. Every time someone calls me that I disolve in a fit of giggles, because years and years ago I had a tattoo put on my pussy mount that reads exactly that; “WHORE”. I enjoy a very healthy sexual appetite and a more than satisfying sex life. I don’t have sex with any of my submissives ever by my personal choice. When I was much much younger I worked in a Brothel and I supported my than small children with the income I provided with my body. So by calling me a whore you are hardly insulting me. I think it is funnier than hell, who should be more humiliated? The trick who has to pay for it or chooses to pay for the sexual favors of a woman or the woman who gets paid for something others give away without much thought. So when someone calls me a whore now, I laugh at them. If they push me further I simply state: Well ok, doesn’t matter so does it, because you could never afford me to begin with!
Another lovely word that those types of guys love to throw at women are “old hag!” Normally at women who are barely in their late 30′s. Ok let me look at it again like that. If a woman in her late 30′s is an old hag to you, than I suppose you have to be mentally stunted at the age of around 8. Because that is usually when anything over 20 seems ancient to them.
A dictionary give us the following definition of the word hag:
1. An old woman considered ugly or frightful.
Needlessly to say this is what they are trying to call us when they do it. Yet the forget the other 2 definitions which I personally find absolutely delightful and completely own.
2. a. A witch; a sorceress.
Bingo boys! I am actually a Witch in my spiritual path – thank you so much for noticing. And the older I get the more powerful I grow. You are just simply to kind.
b. Obsolete A female demon.
You see what I mean. Just look at the less than silly intelligent comments those types of guys make and really look at them from a positive point of view. (There always is one) AFter you do that, you won’t be able to help yourself but want to thank them for the wonderful compliments they just gave you and feel pretty good about yourself.
Have a lovely day darlings and always remember…. knowledge is power! It is really hard to insult a smart woman!
