Good morning my darlings both Ladies and boys!

First of happy memorial day weekend to all of you who are in the USA and thank you to all our military people in service once again. Thank you to their families as well who give so much of themselves in order for our service men and women to be able to do their job and do it well. Being in the military (any branch) is not easy and it is just as hard on the families who have to give their loved ones up for much of their time. Thank you all.

Today my mind is on “Living your talk!” You know so many people on both sides of the fence approach me either for mentorship or for wishing to serve me, but when you start getting into some of the real questions and you desire to see actions they quickly get offended or find a million excuses why they can’t follow through. The fact is however it takes actions and dedication not just words to live your talk.

Living your talk can get really uncomfortable at times in the real world. You attract people who can become almost psychotic in their obsessions. You can meet up with people who are dangerous to themselves as well as you. But you can also meet some of the most amazing people ever. The thing is when you stop just playing out a fantasy in your head where you are always in charge of every aspect and come out of your kinky closet, you are now up for scrutiny.

I have very high standards for myself and I have high standards for everyone I deal with. I have been told I am too idealistic by pitty repeatedly, but I think it is more that I have what he doesn’t. Real time experience and the drive to actually live my life outside of my head only. Once you do that you have to have high standards or you will fail. You can’t accept people who can never follow your lead, because they simply don’t have what it takes. Either due to personal situations like family or jobs, or because they really are just fantasy lifers and don’t have any real feeling for what we do. For them it is simply a stroke of fantasy.

To me it is a way of life, the way I am. Nothing more or less is necessary to be said on that really. I have been out of my kinky closet from the beginning on. I never felt it necessary to hide who or what I am. Matter of fact, I learned that you can be around vanilla people even young ones and not be offensive if you use some common sense. I earned my respect this way from many walks of life.

Is everything always perfect? Of course not, nor would I expect it to be so. Yet when there is more bad than good in something, when all I get is a bunch of talk, I don’t feel the need to move further with a person. Why? Because they become tedious to me and boring. Yes boring!

I am a doer by nature not a watcher of life. I am not going to just sit and talk about things until the cows come home, I am going to want to see actions and within a reasonable amount of time. A reasonable amount of time being a couple of weeks, not months or years.

I have this first contact path and yes I set it up partially because of the constant harassment (unwanted attention being pushed on me by our delusional “friend” who seems to assume just because he decided after that he wants to serve me but hasn’t done a thing to proof it in almost 1 Year he now needs to create alias after alias to shut me down or make me give in) and partially because it seemed to be the only way of getting boys to understand that actions are required with me.

I have decided to take the first contact path down, but I am not going to even give someone a chance if they don’t do the introduction perfectly and right. So now it means instead of getting my help in doing it right which most you sorely need, you are required once again to do it on your own. To actually think before speaking. Seems the hardest thing to do for most of you. Funny part is that those who actually live this life will by its nature be able to work it out for themselves, while those who just talk all the time and fantasize will not.

See that all comes with experience. Some fantasies are better left in fantasy land like castration, ruination, mutilation etc. Those do not belong in the real time world. But others belong there like real submission and slavery. You know the difference between a want to be dreamer and a real timer quickly, because one has a particular speech pattern which he/she/it can not change. It is honed out of the ego you see and of the flip side the trigger BS internet talk they have read way too much of. A truly submissive individual has a completely different demeanor. They have a different way of talking and a different way of behaving, simply because they already know from experience what is what. You can’t learn that on the internet. YOu can’t pretend that. You can’t fake it until you make it. It is in you, part of you or not there at all. Being told oh I need to be a slave, but being an idiot or a pompous all about my wants person is the furthest thing from a person needing to be a slave.

Let me switch the spot light to the Dom/mes for a second because there too I see a lot of misunderstandings. Being a bossy bitch doesn’t make you a Dom/me. It makes you simply a bossy bitch. Nothing more. A Dom/me does not owe you an explanation of why she does what she does or why she closes a topic on you. It is enough that he/she does period. If she wishes to explain that – than fine, but it is not your due. A Dom/me does not owe you his/her time, he/she gives it to you because you have entertained him/her well, he/she enjoys your company or you have earned it. Yes you boys give us time as well, but unlike what you think a real Dom/me doesn’t chase after you. They are approached and are woed, not the other way around. With other words you are the ones wanting the attention given to you, not us needing your attention.

That is the power difference right there. Are Dom/mes worthless without their slaves? No, not worthless but we do need each other. ONly difference so many still don’t get is that that slave doesn’t have to be you, and if you need to push yourself on someone than guess what you are not worth having period.

See the simple fact is that if you are a good slave, or at least good raw slave material the Dom/me you approach is going to be happy to spend time with you, train you to his/her expectations and turn you into the treasure every slave desires to be. You wouldn’t need to chase them down, annoy the hell out of them, push yourself on them under different aliases just to get some attention. You wouldn’t need to because you have what it takes to have him/her interested enough in you to continue on. That pushiness, that chasing, that ignorance of what submission really is – is exactly what shows you don’t have what it takes.

Which is the same with Dom/mes who have to send endless spam emails all the time and approach subs they have not ever even spoken to with silly demands. If you have to do the chasing you are not a person in charge, period. Slaves serve you because a. they see you as worthy of that service, b. respect you, c. because they are actually feel submissive towards you.

Yet even that doesn’t guarantee a slave a place at your feet, because as much as you chose the person as a submissive whom you wish to serve, the Dom/me in turn has to chose you as well. You don’t get to make that decision boys! It is a joined agreement or not at all.

Once one or the other says, I am sorry but I don’t want you – it is done. The topic is closed for good and final and you move on. No harm done besides a bruised ego. And guess what a slave has pride but not an ego. There is a difference.

A slave seeks rules and guidance, a slave needs those to be complete. A Dom/me seeks to rule and guide, that is why we take slaves on. It is as simple. So when you give an order as a Dom/me and the person you are dealing with constantly has an argument, wants to debate you or finds excuses why he/she can’t follow through with your order given they are not the right one for you. That is a core principle all real time Dom/mes have.

We must understand the difference between a sub/slave and a bottom as well. But if someone is a Master in other areas of BDSM and simply wants to be in my case be a financial submissive he needs to be honest up front so I know what I am up against. I still won’t just base my judgement on that fact, but it will make a difference to me how I handle the process. Why because I understand how hard it is for a real time Master to bottom down to someone. I know the difference in speech and thought patterns. Yet, someone like that won’t have it easier with me at all. Simply because he already should understand how much work really goes into training someone. He/She has even less excuses.

From such a person I truly expect perfect manners from the start, because he/she him/herself would have trained his own slaves to have them. If you can’t even give me that much, you are never going to go far with me. There is a big difference between being polite and manners as well. Something only a lifestyler or a real timer with experience would know.

I give respect to those who deserve it and that is everyone until they have become so annoying that I no longer feel that this respect is necessary. They have already stepped over my line of endurance with behavior acceptable.

I say this all the time and I will say it again. Subs / slaves are not second class people, they are not mentally inferior to us, they are the ying to our yang. They are however by their nature to give a certain amount of courtesy mannerful respect to those they approach. That doesn’t mean they have to grovel or be over the top sugary. It means that they respect the courtesy rules I have for non-serving slaves to uphold.

Since slaves do feel the need to be guided in performing an action in a certain way, it is actually showing them the respect they deserve to give them exact guidelines on how you want something executed. Be that responding to a post on a forum, be that making a first approach etc.

If they don’t feel like following that order, they can simply not reply to the forum post. They get snarky or confrontational with the person having posted those rules, they are simply showing me that they a, either don’t really feel the need to be guided, b. are bottoms only, c. can’t follow rules period.

What about slaves who are in service to someone else you may ask now. They have their on set of rules given by their Owners. Of course they do, but I doubt that simply manner rules would be in contrast to those I would state. If they are told otherwise by their Lord/Lady they can simply state that in the response. My Owner has told me to respond in this fashion – no disrespect was intended. Wonderful! I like it! Now you just brought honor to yourself and your Owner.

Any Dom/me who has done what he/she is doing for any length of time real time has a specific set of Rules and ways he/she wants it done. There are standard courtesy manner rules for non-serving submissives and there are standard Rules for their slaves. As a submissive you should have no problem following the standard courtesy rules for non-serving to the Dom/me rules.

Protocols are not dead yet and I for one am old school protocol Domina. So when you deal with me, or want to deal with me you already know that about me. If you can’t accept that, you need to stay away from me. I won’t chase you down!

Ok that was just my meditation for today and I will post that in several of my blogs, and forums today. Have a lovely weekend and if you do with to approach me for service you may do so via Goddess.BellaDonna@yahoo.com but be aware that I want it done perfectly and right or you will simply get ignored. Or you can take the first contact path if you don’t know how to do it and get the instruction within. Simple.

Oh and yes I do expect a show of appreciation within a reasonable time frame, reasonable to me that is. If you want to impress me and show me that you are real you would do that on your own without being told anyways. Another sure sign that you indeed wish to serve me as a financial submissive. It really is simple!

Hello my dear Readers,

today I would like to talk a little about “turn on” phrases which we throw around (or some of us do) in financial domination or domination in general. A lot of those phrases may have the desired result in some submissives, but in a larger number of them they are not the turn on humiliation but a red flag to move on.

As always I can only share my own opinions on those and they do not reflect the community at large.

I will handle this Article in the following manner. I will put the word in bold and underneath give my thoughts on them.

Loser!
Every few minutes someone is being called a Loser on public boards, on messengers, during a real time session or is referring to himself as a Loser. For some of them it results in a massive hardon and is a major turn on, to many others on the other hand when this word is being uttered in conjunction to their person it is as if someone just stabbed them with a knife. It doesn’t humiliate them, but it makes them humiliated and disgusted.
First off don’t assume that ever submissive out there is a loser or wants to be spoken to like one. Don’t assume that every Domina gets hot and bothered when you refer to yourself as a loser. Frankly to me it does the opposite. It makes me want to wring your neck. A Loser is a low individual who either do to personal circumstances, lack of mental prowess or pure laziness will never amount to anything worthy of being, owning or associating with. Why would I surround myself with someone who identifies himself as such? I wouldn’t. If I call you a loser, it is not meant in an endearing sort of voice or in a sweet seductive humiliation scenario. It is meant I really see you like a loser and I would rather have my teeth pulled right now (which I hate) than associate any further with you.

If you are of the turn on type there is a time and a place for it. That time and place is during a session or scene, not in an everyday conversation. Unless that happens to be his slave name or your pet name for him, but at that point you have already established different dynamics for it.

Idiot!
We can behave in an way which is idiotic from time to time, but if you are a true idiot you have no business being in this lifestyle. An idiot is someone who can’t put 2 and 2 together and come out with 4. An idiot is downright impossible to teach anything to. Now before we go further I am not referring to the term idiot as I would to the medical condition of mental retardation. Personally I hate this association. I am talking about someone with no mental or physical handicaps acting as if they have no sense at all. Not attractive, not desirable and definitely not something I would want in my life. Now I have personally said to a couple of my slaves during a session…”You are such a smart person, but look at you here you are amusing me like a sweet idiot.” Did you see how it just changed the entire meaning? I think that a lot of it depends on how you use it and when. Purely you Idiot – leaves a bad taste no matter when.

Supremacy!
I get so tired of hearing Dominas and subs talking about supremacy. Supremacy is not gender related. One sex or the other does not make you supreme or inferior. What makes you a supreme human being is your abilities, your skills, your behavior and your wisdom. That can come in both genders. Those who are truly supreme don’t find it necessary to talk down to people or to make them feel like everyone besides them is a speck of dirt. That actually broadcasts quiet the opposite to me. And who ever came up with that all women should be Dominas because we are the superior gender? Excuse me if that is true, than you just took the right of a woman to be equal or submissive is she so chooses. Doesn’t make much sense to me. Again it is perfectly wonderful in the context of one on one interaction between Domina and submissive – You are my Superior, my supreme Lady yadda yadda, but in that case it isn’t because of her gender but because of who she is at the essence of it all.

Wimp / Sissy
A sissy is a crossdressing male flat and simple. Just because someone is submissive and subservient to females in general, is by nature not confrontational and doesn’t feel like he needs to take on every male out there, doesn’t make him either a wimp or a sissy. Now if you start crying more than I would because you broke a nail, or because you got a flat tire…I may reconsider that statement.

Pathetic!
Being a submissive doesn’t make you pathetic in any way or form. Actually it takes a lot of self-confidence to allow yourself to be submissive to another human being. It takes a lot of inner strength and often physical too to endure the various aspects of a D/s relationship. So having someone throw out the notion that all submissive males are pathetic makes me see red. Now I strong male can become weak for ME, but I have a hard time calling that pathetic. Again please keep it at the right time and place or you may just run the individual screaming for the hills. No man wants to hear he is pathetic all the time.

Those were just a few top ones which I see the most of. As always thanks for reading and have a lovely day.

Goddess Bella Donna
http://www.newmoneypigswanted.com

I just received the following message from Richard  – aka Pitty – the guy who thinks he needs to play games with us Ladies. This is a warning and a heads up for all of you out there!

simonslave9: goddess, uncle pitty has been busy while ur doing the ignore thing. i tolf u he loves that. he has downloaded your profile pic form your acct. he is working on having the capability to ACTUALLY send yahoo messages as goddess.belladonna, NO FACSIMILE.
simonslave9: yes it can be done

He is using my images!

So from now on when someone contacts you from what appears to be my yahoo messenger do the following.

Tell him to get on his webcam! Also notice that my yahoo messenger reads goddess_belladonna@yahoo.com where his copy reads goddess.belladonna@yahoo.com

This is not me! I will not be pressured into talking to this retard ever again! Period! Nor will I be run off by him. This Goddess is here to stay!

Ways to protect yourself from scam and scum like him!

Know me well enough to know I do not contact you first period!
Ask the person to put on their webcam. If he makes any sort of excuses it won’t be me.
I no longer take new subs other than via my first contact path, so if it was me you would have already contacted me and you would be on a different messenger ID.

For those who already have spoken to me in the past, you know I have no problem flipping my webcam on if I ask you for anything period. Even if I am not dressed up, no make up on etc.

Know my language and my voice of writing.

Make him verify himself.

If you fall for his games after that I am not held responsible.

And to you Richard / pitty you can kiss my ass period. Just remember what I told you before, I am done playing your stupid game. You are pathetic and at this point all you will get is click and ignore. So feel free I hope you get on the wrong person and get what you deserve. You are playing a dangerous game now.

Good morning everyone!

The new Issue of the Financial Domination Magazine (May 2011) is now available for sale.

In this issue the following issues are covered:

Page  5: Tributes and Introduction Gifts via Niteflirt – hatred and rethinking

Page  9: Webcam Dominas – Webcam Girls what is the difference?

Page 13: Why is it so hard to find a good Domina or slave these days?

Page 18: Are all sissy’s gay or bi? By Sissy Cassi

Page 19: Financial Domination from a Veterans point of view!

Page 27: From Camgirl to Findom by Goddess Sterling Rose (Domina in Training)

Page 29: Classifieds

Page 30: Before you can be a submissive boy you need to be a Man first

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Sissy Cassi is back and covers one question. Are all sissy gurls gay or bi? Why don’t your find out from someone who truly is a sissy.

Your truly covered the other topics listed above and I personally feel that those are very important to think about and reconsider. This fetish has so many gray areas and misunderstandings which only make finding a good match a lot harder. By giving it straight to you, I hope to lay some of these misunderstandings and false thoughts to rest.

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If I had a dime for every time a gentleman came on my messenger proclaiming loudly he is a slave – a pay piggy etc. I could retire right now and live in great comfort. If I had a quarter for each time I have been cussed at, harassed, or a guy after making such a claim when he didn’t get what HE WANTED for as long as HE WANTED IT, I could buy myself and island and put a castle on it.

The fact is that a slave - a true slave – would be abhorred by the attitudes, actions and words that come out of some of those guys’ mouth. The reality is that actual slaves show their slavery by actions not by words. The show it in courtesy and that includes the courtesy to take NO for an answer when the Lady gives it. A slave would never presume that anyone owes them anything, but shows his/her gratitude for what is given them. A slave would never dare harass or continuously bother a Domina once she has told him to either step up or go away. He would understand instantly that now it is time for him to move forward and respect her decision or to depart for good and respect her decision.

When a person doesn’t follow this and forces him/her-self on another person it becomes harassment. Let me give you the definition of what harassment is on a legal stand point
harassment (either harris-meant or huh-rass-meant) n. the act of systematic and/or continued unwanted and annoying actions of one party or a group, including threats and demands. The purposes may vary, including racial prejudice, personal malice, an attempt to force someone to quit a job or grant sexual favors, apply illegal pressure to collect a bill, or merely gain sadistic pleasure from making someone fearful or anxious. Such activities may be the basis for a lawsuit if due to discrimination based on race or sex, a violation on the statutory limitations on collection agencies, involve revenge by an ex-spouse, or be shown to be a form of blackmail (“I’ll stop bothering you, if you’ll go to bed with me”). The victim may file a petition for a “stay away” (restraining) order, intended to prevent contact by the offensive party. A systematic pattern of harassment by an employee against another worker may subject the employer to a lawsuit for failure to protect the worker
Directly quoted http://legal-dictionary.thefreedictionary.com/harassment

Regardless if threats are involved or not, the first line says so straight forward : act of systematic and/or continued unwanted and annoying actions of one party or a group. At this point it becomes harassment.

A slave would never allow himself do anything of that nature. This would be alien to him and he wouldn’t even understand why anyone would do such a thing. Yet I find it ironic that those who proclaim the loudest they are slaves tend to do this the most. MMM makes you think doesn’t it.

A slave would never tell a Lady to “fuck off”, call her “Babe”, or try to bargain with her. None of those are slave behaviors in the least.

A slave understands the value of the Ladies time and respects it. Not pushes her until she will walk away from him/her completely.

A slave understands that a Lady might have some personal space needs as well, he may offer himself as amusement, but will respect her declination of such if she is not in the mood.

A slave understands that the most important thing is his respect and honor. When he promises something he will never break that promise. He will not blame his bad behavior on the Lady. EVER

A slave understands that he may request something, but never demand it. He may never threaten her, make her feel uncomfortable in any way or otherwise upset her. That would hurt a slave more than any physical pain in the world, since his entire being desires to only make her happy.

A slave understands that rewards are to be earned and not something he has a right to. It is at the digression of the Lady whom he serves to see when he has earned this.

See what I mean? Anyone can learn to talk pretty, to use buzz words, to speak admiringly and worshipful. When the actions are in direct opposition of what he is doing however he only shows himself in a very bad light. No Lady will want him for her slave.