A couple of weeks ago I had a gentleman ask me why I was taking so much time out of my days to write the financial domination Magazine and essentially educate others for free on this fetish. To him it made little sense that I would spent so much time working on composing easy to understand topics and share my knowledge and experience with folks who are not going to even show me any financial appreciation for it.

His train of thought was that I should be more just about enriching my own life and seeking out more cash pets to adore and worship me financially and leave others to figure it out for themself.

That made me wonder how many others are just as confused by this as he was and so I decided to give you a little insight to my train of thinking on it and the reason I decided to create and maintain the Magazine.

First of all I don’t give ALL of my information for free. There are a lot of very important articles in the downloadable and print issue of the Magazine which you need to purchase in order to gain the knowledge. So I do ask for a little in return from those of you who are actually really seeking to get all of it.

The deeper reason of it was that I deeply love this fetish and I have watched  it changing so much into something it never was over the years that it deeply disturbed me. Financial Domination has such a bad reputation without it actually deserving it. It is a legit fetish like any other and it may not be for everyone but that doesn’t mean it is bad or non valid. To me the only way you can combat something like that is by education the masses at large. Show them that not all financial Dominas are just money grubbing three headed Monsters who couldn’t care about anything but them-selves. That simply isn’t true and there are a lot of fine ladies out there who care deeply about their loyal boys and those who serve them. They have found a middle ground between receiving what they desire and not ruining someone in the process.

Another reason is that I have been in BDSM period for such a long time that I understand that everything changes a bit, but that in order to keep the integrity of the lifestyle you need to educate new people as well. A lot of people learn by reading on the internet, if all they ever read is the glorified gimme gimme posts than they belief that is all there is to it. That again is far from the truth. There is a whole big back part to the scene you usually don’t get to see. A lot of care and thought goes into what we do. Plus I am not going to be alive forever, sooner or later I will move on to my next life and I would like to know that I have done my part in helping new people find a good and honorable path in doing what they love.

As new to the fetish people enter the scene they often encounter a lot of hostility from those in it for a long time and then we wonder why they become so jaded from he beginning on. A new financial Domina often doesn’t just deal with trying to find her own way, the constant wanker attacks but also the looking down the nose at them from other more experienced Ladies. That is a horrible feeling and of course they are going to get an attitude a mile long. It is a horrible catch 22 when that happens, because now they stop listening to anyone fearing attack.

So they learn from the fluff posts on various blogs which are often polished to look better than what really happened (not in all cases but in most). They learn from that and they learn it the wrong way. Now you have the “I don’t give a shit – just pay me looser” Mistresses you all complain about so much, which in turn breeds more disgruntled submissives and creates a whole new line of wankers. They want to pay us back for being who they think we are. Do you see where that circle might be a huge problem?

Now I can’t single handedly put a monkey wrench into it, but I can do my best to help slow the process down by speaking openly and honestly about what I see as facts. Remember that mine is only one opinion in millions, it isn’t the law and it isn’t the only truth. It simply is how I see things and what has worked for me for many many years now.

I will never become a Millionaire from being an FD because my integrity will always end up getting in the way, but at least at the end of the day when I look in the mirror I still see a Lady standing there who can hold her head up high. A true Goddess in every sense of the word and not because I look hot.

I can hold my head up high, smile with confidence and say – YES I am a financial Goddess and I love what I do on so  many levels you will never understand. I am loved and adored for who I am, not for what I give to you. I do not sell my soul for money, and I don’t sell my body for a couple of bucks. I am a Domina – I run my show and I allow those who understand what this really is about to come and find their home at my feet.

That is what my hope is for our younger ladies out there. That they can do the same. In the beginning you won’t see nothing wrong with being just about the money, but as you grow into yourself, as you get older and hopefully wiser that will change. When you have come across the first guy who is out just to destroy who you are your thinking changes and I want to help you to avoid that sort of pain. If I can at all do so, by letting you learn from my mistakes and my experience.

For the financial subs I want them to learn what to look for. You guys run willy nilly into situations that you could avoid if you only took the time to research first and think. I know it is hard thinking when you are turned on, but it is a lot saver and enjoyable for you in the long run. There is an entire right and wrong mindset to being a financial slave. You are not weak  men because weak men could not be strong enough to bow to a superior Lady. It takes a lot of honor and integrity to be a good financial slave. And I try to show you the right way to achieving that position of honor. Not necessarily to me but to someone worthy out there.

I have just posted a couple of new posts on my personal blog http://www.newmoneypigswanted.com/wordpress which you might wish to read as well. They still of course educate but they are more geared directly towards the ones seeking to serve ME as their Goddess.

If I can shut my eyes when my life is up and know that my writing has made a difference in this fetish than I belief I leave an awesome legacy behind. Something I can truly be proud of. That alone is a great pay off for me personally.

Of course if the boys see it for what it is than maybe just maybe that is also a way they can find their humble way to me and seek to serve, but that is not something I ever count on.

Did that help make you understand the reason?

As always

The Goddess

I have had some very interesting conversations of late with several individuals from both sides of the fence on this topic and since it seems such a hot button topic for so many of you I would like to give you my opinion on it  Please remember that this is only one Opinion – mine – and is no more or less valid than those of others.

Financial Domination has been around for a very long time now. What so many folks do not seem to realize is that there was financial domination before there was ever a phrase coined for it. Before we turned it into a sub category and then a stand alone fetish it was an essential and quiet natural part of a solid D/s Relationship.

Slaves by their nature knew and understood that is was their purpose in life to make their Dom/me happy and keep them as stress free as possible. Since money, bills etc can be a big stress point for everyone including Dom/mes it was just natural for them to show their appreciation and worship by taking care of as many of those stress points as they could afford. It wasn’t a forced thing, it wasn’t a oh get my dicky hard thing, but a natural aspect of their service to the Lady or Lord.

Matter of fact I would go as far as to say it was an honor for the individual slave to be able to “provide” this very tangible service and showed that he was a real man worthy of the attention of the Goddess he had chosen to serve and whom gave him the honor of chosing him for service. Yes serving someone is an honor!

For some unfathomable to me reason (I blame it solidly on the internet and their ignorance of deeper measures on those subjects) suddenly slaves seem to have forgotten this and are having a hard time going from fantasy talk and what it would be like to actual action. We do have some good ones left out there no doubt, I am blessed to be the Goddess to a select few, but the wide majority of them have some very confused outlooks on it.

Financial Domination is a lot more than just a business. For a real FD it is a way of life, something that comes natural to her. Something she deeply enjoys and yes will receive a mental charge from. If you can’t understand this you are a bit clueless about what drives a Dom/me to participate in this lifestyle.

Power or more the transference of power from a submissive individual into her hands which she yields expertly and with flair. Now let me take you further into my train of thought here. What holds more power in this world than money? Without money we as human beings are not able to survive, we are not able to take care of our needs. We become essentially helpless to society and its demands when we are without fluid income. Having stated this as such what is more of a Power Rush than to take this “tool of power” from a submissive and make it our own? What shows devotion and the giving up of some of his power more than his eager and willing handing over of this financial gift?

Are you seeing what I mean? If financial domination was purely a business with no deeper connect, no requirements outside of this we might as well go and work for Walmart or sell Tupperware to strangers. Because once you put it into a Business Term you are now “working” for the slave. You are being paid in order to provide a service to him which takes the word domination out of the equation.

So what about the Ladies like myself who film clips 4 sale and offer Pay to Views? What about them? That has nothing to do with financial domination but is simply another venue for us to make money and to offer different fetishes to those who for some reason are not able to commit themselves to serving anyone at all.

I have said it before and I will say it again. Life has a way of getting in the way and situations can change in the blink of an eye for a submissive. YOU CAN NOT count on an “income” or regular financial gifts from a slave for that reason. As a Financial Dom/me you get accustomed quickly to a certain lifestyle and a certain way of living, especially our younger Ladies out there. It is very addictive and can be quiet intoxicating in its own right for the Dom/me as much as it is for the slave. Because of that you need to have other venues of income so you never place yourself in the situation to become dependant on a slave for your survival. Remember that power means you are not dependent on anyone else in this area of your life. Those who old the power make the Rules! Done, end of statement.

With this phrased like that the Dom/me can not afford to allow herself to get into a position that she can not provide for her own needs and wants.

Does that mean having a slave pay for a bill for us if we so desire to give them this honor is a show of neediness? No it isn’t as long as you can afford to pay the bill by yourself. Basically it will be paid regardless if he does it or not. If he does follow his order and happily serves as he should the bounty of pleasure is shared. He was able to provide a valuable service to his Lady and she can now spent the money on something she would like instead or pay the bill again for credit on her account.

What bothers me is when I hear slaves being so impressed by a Domina talking about how she never has to take care of her own upkeep and uses her money for drugs and alcohol instead. First off you lose control and focus when you do that, over yourself and with that over others. It is hurtful to your body in so many ways and only will speed your aging process.

EAsy money is easy spent – that is a fact. Once you get used to having thousands of dollars running through your hands without having to do much more than talk a little and make silly faces or look cute on a cam,  you do not appreciate it because you did not have to do any work for it. Of course that is not always the fact (I mean that it is all sunshine and roses) matter of fact 99% of individuals claiming to be financial submissives wouldn’t have clue one what it is if it bit them in the ass.  The point is that if you are younger you have the attraction (physically) going for you and “servants” are a lot easier to come by. At that point you are more just about the cash as well in most cases. As you grow and develop deeper into your own path, style and self your requirements for service will become a lot stricter, more structured and you will find quickly that the offer of money from someone who confuses you with an online hooker or a camgirl, an adult performer of any kind matter of fact is less enticing.

If you would have financial domination at that more mature point as a business you would end up being stuck and almost find yourself in the position to have to accept such demeanor from the “subs”. If you however kept your integrity and have found other venues (even if they are in the adult industry on any level) you can afford to tell that person to take a long walk of a long bridge. Again keeping the Power in your court instead of handing it over to someone else.

So if that is the case, why do we not do all this for free? Well hello did you read the first part of the Article? It is a power rush, it is a transference of power and it is what an FD does. Money is the bottom line! The final very core basic of this fetish and lifestyle. From the slaves hands eagerly given and desired to be of service to his Lady in that manner into the pocket of the Lady in question who understands that this is her right and privilege to demand and accept this from the slave who had CHOSEN to serve her.

Financial Dominas (those who truly understand and appreciate this fetish and have made it their lifestyle and whom it is a part of) are neither Gold Diggers, Scam Artists nor desperate Sugar Babies. They are women of power who have a firm grasp on what they want, how they want it and have enough common sense and integrity to decide from whom they are willing to receive it.

Financial slaves (true ones) understand the dynamics and need them in order to be filled with purpose and enjoy their station in life. It makes them both fearful as well as proud and happy to be chosen and/or accepted by a wonderful woman who understands the power she wields.

Financial domination is not for everyone. It should never be forced and needs to met the needs of both individuals from the opposite end. If it doesn, than it is nothing more than a pitiful game and a cheaping of what those who live it and breathe it take extremely serious.

So is financial domination just a Business? NO it is a way of life and goes far beyond just a business transaction. You will never see a sign on my website that says – 1 million served!

As always

Goddess Bella Donna

I am sorry dear Readers that I forgot to mention this earlier. Truthfully I just had a really busy weekend and thought I already let you know that the long-awaited new Issue of the Financial Domination Magazine is now available at my store for sale.

The April 2011 Issue includes the following topics:

Page # 05 – Finding yourself as a submissive boy!

Page # 12 – Respect and Manners (from a slaves point of view) by sissy cassi

Page # 14 – Responsibilities of a Domina

Page # 18 – Online interaction between D/s

Page # 23 -  Mesmerization – what the heck is it?

Page # 25 – Mental Health – Bi-polar Dominas or subs/slaves

Page # 31 – The human ATM 

Page # 05 – Finding yourself as a submissive boy!

Page # 12 – Respect and Manners (from a slaves point of view) by sissy cassi

Page # 14 – Responsibilities of a Domina

Page # 18 – Online interaction between D/s

Page # 23 -  Mesmerization – what the heck is it?

Page # 25 – Mental Health – Bi-polar Dominas or subs/slaves

Page # 31 – The human ATM

The print issue is $19.99 and the download version is $9.99

Click here for a preview!

So many of you boys are dying to hear my voice, to hear it from my own lips but you are either at a different timezone or you are too painfully shy to speak to me directly. For that reason I have made a voice recording available via the Niteflirt Platform a while back and then completely forgot to point you to it.

Well here it is, the recording is 16 min. long. You can listen to it as long as your little mind and wallet can stand it.