I believe that is really doesn’t hurt to question your-self from time to time, to either realize where you are really standing at this point in your life, if what you are doing is really for you, if you have improved and found your own personal path etc.
I know I chart my personal growth via a Journal. That goes for everything I do in my life and is interesting to see how my thoughts, desires, likes, dislikes and interests change as time goes by. To those of you who scuff at this thought, let me bid you farewell now, I am happy you are perfectly happy with yourself and your life and don’t feel you can improve anywhere. Perhaps one day I will reach that level of elite supremacy, until then I hope to continue growing in all my fields, in all my understanding and wisdom. Hopefully I will be granted a long time and many opportunities to fine tune my own perfection and evolve a bit more.
How to use this self-questionnaire!
You can print it out and answer the questions to yourself. Copy them into your own journal and answer / date it there and review them every 6 months to a year. Or you may use them as a Blog Post with your own Answers on your Blog (in that case I would request a link back to this Magazine) since this is under intellectual copyright.
For Submissives, if you feel you want to use this questionnaire to get to know a new to you potential Mistress, feel free to copy and paste it. But realize that you are running a risk of pissing her off. Not all Mistresses like to be questioned. (Personally, I think that if you get the answer: I am perfect, fuck you, you should move along) However gents, the same rule goes for you. I want a link back or mention where you found this!
Note: For the purpose of showing what I mean I have answered the Questions right here as they pertain to myself. You want to erase my answers when using them for yourself. I will not look kindly on having you steal my answers!
The Domme Questionnaire
1.) Is being a Pro-domme / Financial Goddess purely for financial purposes.
No, it is not purely for my financial purposes. It is part of my income since I do this fulltime and work in different Venues related to this “topic”. I also do it because I love what I do, which is one of the reasons I am trying to educate as honestly as I can about this particular fetish. Trying to elevate some of the false feelings about it on a bigger scale then just with those that wish to serve me. I think financial domination has some very therapeutically useable sides to it, if the Mistress cares for her “subjects”. I for one do not like alcoholics, refuse drugs and make a decent healthy living a requirement to being part of my Temple. Which means that I spend a lot of time just setting their life to rights.
2.) What do I feel when I first become contacted by a new to me submissive?
Depends on the submissive contacting me and how that contact is being done. If it is just a smooch up visit (Oh you are so perfect), and I get the vibe that he is just kissing my ass and stroking his cock, I am more annoyed then anything else. If the person is respectful, comes to me with a very well thought out desire to serve me and to get to know me, ready at that moment and willing to show that he can in the long run tribute to me with a small gift of MY CHOICE, not his, then I am elated, excited and have often put things aside to talk to him. AT that point I have a big excitement running to me and it is like opening up a brand new book I have never read in before. I am curious to discover what those pages hold. So a new to me sub should always be best advised to have some time when coming to me the first time. I will make one tribute request and have tons of questions.
3.) Do I require an initial Tribute when dealing with a new to you submissive / piggy?
Yes, I do. A small Tribute (between $20 – $100 depending on his budget) usually I have him chose the amount, but do it in a way I chose)
4.) If yes, why?
To see if he indeed is willing to tribute in the long run, is able to make tributes or is just wasting my time. How eager he is to follow through. How much he will choose to Tribute to me and how he reacts after the Tribute has been made. Plus it gives him a chance to see how I deal with good bois.
5.) Am I ever not in the mood to deal with my submissives / piggies?
Very seldom. I must have a really bad day in which I still allow them into my presence, but warn them that I have a bad day and that they may wish to tread lightly. Only if I have a family emergency will I not wish to talk to them, because I can not focus on their needs then.
6.) When a submissive lies or does not fill his assignment, how do I feel?
Annoyed, hurt, betrayed, and less likely to ever believe you again. Lies is something I can not stand!
7.) What is my strong point as I perceive it?
That I truly care about those that serve me. I get into their heads and try my best to bring them to the peak of their abilities in all areas of their life. I “love” those that serve me faithfully and they become part of my family. I am very protective of my family.
8.) What fetishes turn me personally on (physically) the most?
This is where I get actually wet when I do it. Latex and Leather make me feel extremely sexy. Fingernails I love having my Fingernails done nicely or do them myself. I love it when they are fancy, but seldom indulge myself. Shoes and Boots. I love new sexy shoes. I love the way they look on my feet, the way the lift my ass, the way they show my legs off to their best advantage. I am exhibitionist in my personal life and love knowing that I arouse men and women alike. I have no qualms about taking my clothe off when I FEEL LIKE IT. But when it comes to my subs, I love making them “pay me” for it. Not with extra cash, but with enduring something they don’t like too much for me. Wigs! Black Opals! Yes I can actually almost cum from receiving a Jewelry Piece that has black Opals in them. The fire in them draws me and arouses me.
9.) What fetishes turn me personally on (mentally) the most?
How many hours do you have? Most of my arousal usually is in the mind and does not go to my cunt. I can hit a natural top high through: cuckoldry, foot and shoe worship, bondage, cbt, smoking fetishes (from mild to torture), tease and denial, mind manipulation, mind reprogramming (not to be confused with hypnosis, because I do not put you under, I simply mesmerize you and have you bend your will to mine), Goddess Worship (verbally – must be done the way I trained you or else you just annoy me), puppy training, mental bondage, spankings, objectification, vibrator play, sissy training, anal training, personal attendance.
10.) Which BDSM activities do I enjoy the most?
Real time: Bondage, waxing, puppy play, spankings, flogging, cbt, maid training, canning, mental bondage, stretching, nipple play, paddles,
11.) What are my personal limits?
Needles, Age play (I refuse to pretend I am a Teenager or underage for anyone, matter of fact I would have to turn you in), Blood (no cutting), Bestiality, Children (shouldn’t have to say it, but sadly you better include it), ruination, black mail (since bois just can’t be trusted anymore), roman showers, brown cow, (that is all I can think of right now)
12.) Do I belong to any REAL TIME Group, BDSM organization, attend munches or would like to?
No, I have stopped belonging or going to those about 8 years ago.
13.) If yes, which?
See above
14.) If no, why?
Too many politics. I have the posturing, the Elitist BS, and it has become a joke in most places. I do not believe in Hierarchies and am not a herd animal. There is just nothing lately that I find enticing about them anymore. At least here in Las Vegas.
15.) Do I belong to any online Groups, BDSM organizations?
Yes I am a Member of a couple Financial Domination Groups.
16.) If yes, which?
http://www.myfinancialdommespace.com is the main one.
17.) What is the most important personality trade I look for in a submissive / piggy?
Honesty, loyalty, intelligent behavior, being able to think for your-self, knowing when to follow or wait for orders and when to be creative and think for him/her self. The desire to really serve me and not just serve their own purposes. Willingness to be trained in my ways. The desire to actually get to know me and not just worship an illusion.
18.) What is the most important financial trade I look for in a submissive / piggy?
A steady job, which allows him/her to worship me, tribute to me without putting him-self into jeopardy. Being aroused by tributing to me, wanting to do so on his own accord, and understanding that being allowed to give his gifts to me is a privilege not a right.
19.) Do I have different sets of requirements for online only and real time subs?
Yes, I do.
20.) If yes, which and why?
One is the Age requirement. My real time Submissives have to be at a minimum of 35 Years old, where I have permitted online submissives as young as 21 years old.
I have stronger rules for my real time subs, since they are in direct physical contacts with me. I have to screen them out a lot better then when they are purely serving me online.
I have a longer consideration period for my real time submissive bois that actually wish to serve me.
21.) What is the one thing that drives a lot of submissives/ piggies away from me?
That I am very verbal and thorough plus do not like to be played around with. I do not date my subs, I do not fuck my subs and for me it is truly about service. The rest is icing on your cakes. Most do not like that they do have to tribute for my time, even when they profess to have a financial fetish. I do not mince words and I expect a lot out of my bois.
22.) What is the one thing that I do not always feel comfortable with about myself?
I am an open book! I do not hide ANYTHING and with that probably often give too much information, which just scares them away.
23.) Why do you not change it or what are you doing to change it?
I don’t change it because I live by example. With other words those that will love and worship me, will love and worship not an illusion. Besides if I expect others to be honest, I do not need to act as if I am so Mysterious. LOL which is funny since my call name on Niteflirt is Mysteria. Just an illusion.
24.) Am I PERFECT in every way?
Oh hell no! I have flaws like everyone else. I grow older, have tempers at times, get tired, and my body does get wrinkles with time. But I am perfectly me, meaning I am more then secure in who I am, which to me is something that is extremely important. I know that I stand up under scrutiny which is something a lot of Dommes can not say. So yes, I am proud of who I am.
25.) Which fetishes / BDSM Areas are out there you have not done yet, but are interested in finding out more about?
Well I have done a bit of it, but would like to learn more about “Fire Play!” “Electro Play” and “Hypnosis – the real one not the so called Porno Hypnosis I see so much these days.”
26.) Would you be willing to learn something from your submissive?
Absolutely. I have done so in the past and hope I get the chance to do so in the future. We all have wonderful things we can bring to the table and if a sub has something I have not done or used and he wishes to share it with me, I am an eager student. As long as he realizes his position, which is at least respectfully
27.) Have you ever had any experience as a submissive?
Yes, I have for several years. Which is also how I learned to respect my subs more then most would, how I learned being a submissive is not for me, and learning the flip side of it all. I have given workshops and written Articles from both Slave and Mistress perspective and have shared many of my own experiences. I have learned what neglect can do to a sub, what a carelessness or lies can do. I am not a Switch, I never was. I have simply walked both sides at separate times and have realized that I am a Domme and not suited to be anything else mentally, emotionally and physically.
My experiences as slave are documented on the internet in text, videos and membership site etc, which will not be updated ever again.
28.) If yes, are you open and honest about it?
Very, I don’t think there is anything to be embarrassed about it. If anything it has made me better at what I do, gave me a better insight and has made me more demanding, yet merciful at the same time. I would not wish to have missed this experience.
29.) If you hide it, why do you feel it necessary to hide it?
30.) If yes, what has it meant to you in finding submissive males wishing to serve you?
It has made it a lot more difficult, since a lot of guys have that stupid Idea that you are either born one thing or the other. I hear that word natural born X or Y, in reality I would say you get reborn into it. You may have some personality trades that will give you the interest in one area or the other, but just because you are aggressive or demanding, does not mean you are a good Dom/me.
Likewise just because you are shy, subservient, submitted means you are automatically submissive.
31.) Do you believe in ALL ABOUT me, or do you enjoy rewarding and bringing the best out in your submissive?
To my sub it should be All About me, that is there job. For me it is part of my nature to reward, to explore the edges of your being, to fine tune you, to make you a better you and turning raw material into a Treasure I can be proud of having by my side.
32.) What would you consider yourself? (Elitist, Down to earth, One of a kind, not a herd Mistress)
Down to earth and one of a kind. I am unique in the ways I have developed, like finger prints there are never two exactly alike. I do not enjoy the term Elitist, since to me it just has too much bragging to it. But that is just me. I am a Goddess, which is enough.
33.) Do you ever get discouraged and question if it is even worth being a Mistress and if yes what makes you question it?
Yes, when I watch some of the developments on the online slaveries. When I have a streak of idiot subs applying and it wastes more of my time and nervous then brings me pleasure.
34.) If you do, why do you stick it out?
Because it is part of who I am plus for every bad time there are good ones. I try to remember, that there has to be bad to go with the good. I am curious to see what is around the next corner.
35.) How do you see your submissives?
Again depends on the relationship we have.
My real time servants, sometimes as much as once or twice a week.
My “clients” (Pro-Sessions) whenever they schedule and appointment I feel like taking it.
My online subs depending on their service to me, how much they amuse me and which standing they are in anywhere from once a week to almost daily.
36.) How much do you like to be involved in your subs life? Both online and real time?
As much as possible. I want to know everything there is to know and they are comfortable sharing with me. Remember that a submissive needs to see me as his confidant as well, be able to come to me with problems away from the BDSM Realm in order to serve me well. So the more I know about him, his live etc, the better. Besides depending on how deeply his level of service to me, the deeper I start mapping his life out for him.
37.) Have you ever owned or collared real time?
Yes, I have. 2 Males and 1 female.
38.) Have you ever owned or collared online only?
No I came close one time, but it just didn’t work out.
39.) What is your Goal ultimately as a Financial Domme and as a Pro-domme?
I would like to bring this part of my life fully to the front lines, with other words be able to concentrate my efforts fully on those that serve me. But in order to do this, I would need to have a set amount of steadily loyal tributing submissives that I can count on to take care of my needs. At this moment I am reluctant to put myself out like that, since that is often not understood by submissives. This will then enable me to start traveling and visiting my USA online Piggies and give them the thrill to serve real time at my feet.
I would like to find 7 Clients (Pro-sessions) which I see on a regular base for a minimum of 2 hours.
I would like to establish a strong reliable Temple online with 12 good and loyal piggies who will take care of my needs and wants. With a minimum weekly tribute of $100 or a minimum monthly tribute of $250.00 depending on the situation they wish to fill.
Plus one worthy Temple Priest who will become my second in command and will “herd” my piggies for me.
At that point I will hold Temple Services for ALL my servants on a pre-arranged time.
Plus I would like to reach a Membership count of a minimum 100 for my Membership Section.
I would also like to have ALL my real time positions filled with good and valuable servants
40.) Do you have a problem with the stigmata attached to either phrase and why?
Yes, I do! Because people think I am either a Scam Artist or a Gold Digger as soon as I say I am a financial Goddess, or mistake me for a hooker with a Whip when I say Pro-Domme, since this seems to be what most see online, TV or in Advertisements. I am neither. I love what I do, do not offer sex for money or just take without giving in return. If I am anything I would be an unlicensed Therapist both mental, emotional and sexual.
41.) How are you different at all?
I breath what I do, but I also still live in a vanilla life openly. I don’t hide what I do from anyone, and evenso I do not push myself on others, am always open to explain what I do and educate those that are curious. I have found that once someone gets to know you, their understanding changes and they look a lot less hostile at the words.
42.) Tribute fees for both Pro-Domme and Financial Fetishes. What do you require and why have you set your prices at that level?
My Pro-Session Donation / Tribute set at $200 per hour (of course if someone takes more then 3 hours I will work with them) which is a lot cheaper then most Pro-Dommes. I have set it this low, because I am not looking to get rich from doing this. I want those that don’t have a lot be able to serve me, and find comfort and relaxation in my hands at a level that most can afford at least once in a great while. I accept cash only, which cuts out a lot of extra fees and hassles. Now those are not financial Pro-Sessions, since this is the tribute requirement that I keep at. These are for BDSM / Fetish Sessions.
My Financial Domination online tribute requirements the lowest I have ever accepted was $25.00 a week or $100 a month from someone that really could not afford a lot and was a special case to me. However my smallest Tribute requirement should be at least $50.00 a week.
43.) Do you have anyone you consider someone you look at with respect, and if yes? (A Mistress that is older then you maybe? A Trainer, a submissive?)
All of these are real time lifestyle / pro people. Lady C is a venerable lady here in Las Vegas who I have met about 9 month ago and found to be extremely delightful and knowledgeable. She runs a Fetish Store and this is where I love to go and purchase my leather and latex. She is an amazing lady in her late 60’s who is just a good warm hearted lady who has been in the lifestyle for more years that I wish to count.
A lifestyle owned slave named Willerd. This boi is the proof that some slaves are better teachers then their Mistress, he would be the example for any slave on what worship and real service actually means.
And respect of course my husband who is a Master (when he feels the urge) in his own right. He has a lot of wonderful experiences and in his power, is someone to be respected and feared.
44.) When you don’t talk to your submissives, do you ever miss them? If yes, why?
I miss them all the time and simply because if they serve me they over time become part of my family. I always miss my family members.

I am going to try to do this as delicately as I can and yet still stay honest and straight forward. Financial Mistresses can fall prey to the economic crises just as easily as every other person out there. Since most of us are either luxury pets *that I what I call those that claim not to work for a living and just live of their subs and live in the lap of luxury*, are hard working folks by day and financial Mistresses by night, are Pro-Mistresses who may love what they do but make their living with their lifestyle, or are Entrepreneurs who are largely depended on the economy for their income, the economy will and does affect our livelihood directly.
I get so tired of Idiots sitting there and making the statement, that a money Mistress in financial straights or problems has not right to call her-self a financial Domme. I have one thing to say to you on that one, I hope for your sake that you never lose your job, your income or your home. These days all that can go from one second to the next.
I for one am an Entrepreneur, I make my money largely of the Sale of my writing (both articles and my self published books), my Websites both Adult and Non-Adult, my Clips4Sale Store, and my online counseling as well as Phone domination. Couple that with Pro-Sessions and financial domination. As you see for me each of my Venues is dependent on the economy doing well, people having extra leisure income and companies not being or going broke. I started unwittingly going freelance at the onset of the recession and really never fully had time to get my name of the ground as a writer, so now I am naturally stuck in the in between. Think publishing houses, who would you rather give your spare budget to? A guaranteed seller with a name or a newcomer?
I am not a Supermodel in looks, am as real as they come and have the benefit of many years of experience, which will make me also extremely intimidating to most, as well as more demanding. Why? Because I can be demanding, since I bring a lot to the table in return. I do not claim to be a Kindergarten Mistress, but fully speak out in the open about ALL my experiences, which is another thing that makes a lot of bois not only uncomfortable but fearful to get lost in me. (foolish really since that is exactly what they should be wanting – getting lost in my will). What does that have to do with this subject? Simply stated that these Days there are many who are just like me. We work hard in our various chosen fields to make our bills. There are times we make them and other times we can’t, just like everyone else.
But what about all those high money Tributes to the Amazing Goddesses we always read about? What about them? At times they are real, at times they are a fluke and they happen, but most of the time a $1000 and up tribute these days is something that comes seldom. Then the money is usually tied up in some sort of Gift Card, E-Certificate etc which means in the end the sub controls what the Mistress gets to spend the gift on. Doesn’t sound very submissive to me. Think about it, if I want $200 to make a payment for something I want and I need it in cash and you send me a Gift Certificate to a shoe store, then it really doesn’t do me much good.
But what about all the Tribute Porn I see all the time? Tons of photos some of these ladies have of Jewelry they receive, shoes they get bought for them, hands full of cash they hold with their middle finger up in the air and pig so and so having tributed?
Well to be honest, I am not saying that this couldn’t be the truth, but have you ever heard of things being staged?
Look the thing is simple. A lot of bois have the misunderstanding that if a Mistress has a lot of pigs, gets a lot of presents, is constantly taking exotic vacations, gets handfuls of money and is spoiled she is a great money Mistress. I mean the proof is right there!
The simple fact is that, there may be some that have been lucky enough to find a rich submissive that can keep them in style, may have a couple well to do subs that don’t mind spending the money, but most of us don’t. So knowing the psychology of easy to fool bois they stage it.
Anyone can go to the bank withdraw $1500 before they pay their Rent and bills and then hold it in their hand like a fan. But the caption…last nights haul on it, take the photo and done. Now you can take your own money back and pay your bills. To the bois is looks as if …hey she took it rich, and try to give. She must be good.
Gifts of Amazon Gift Lists are the same way. I can fill this stuff up and purchase my own stuff. You can’t see who bought it. So when I see a list that is constantly empty, I as a Business Woman start questioning it.
My question is, should a Mistress that is so obviously not needing you and who will just laugh at you without any remorse be so much more deserving of your service then one that works hard for what she has and is a human with worries like everyone else?
To me, and granted that may be because I am one of them, I would think that giving gifts, cash tributes to someone that works hard at what she does, that is more appreciative of what you give and is willing to reward you and appreciate you in return, would be not only a wiser choice but also the more arousing one as a sub.
At least you know you are really making a huge difference in her life.
What I do not agree with is the deceit so often perpetrated by so many of my fellow Ladies. If you are in as much financial strain as everyone else, have to work double hard to make your bills etc, why pretend that you are so much above everyone else? Is that what bois really want? If you do, then you are setting yourself up to be scammed and in my eyes have your rude awakening coming.
Think about this as well! How can a financial Domme be getting rich, if the average Joe does barely have enough money to pay his own bills these days. Will the bois take from their bill money to give it to her? If they do, should she allow them to do this? I leave you with that…Think about it for yourself.

Looking for quick and easy money? Being a Pro-Domme / Financial Mistress is not the way to go.
I hear this so often and watch the indication that just because you are a Financial Mistress money is simply being handed to you. That all you have to do is sit on your ass and look powerful, quirk a smile and flip your finger and the bois just flock to your side. For some reason both bois and new to the fetish Girls seem to think that is the way it works and this is the way it goes.
I grant you that for a little while it might even work for you like that. I have seen plenty of 18 / 19 year old hard bodies capitalize on their looks and bratty behavior. Sure it isn’t hard to entice a cock into standing at attention when you are sitting there in Bra & Panties and your body has no signs of time on them yet. The guys’ stroke, you tease and show your-self, they get weak and tribute. A great solution? Only for a short time, because eventually that is not enough for those that are truly financial submissives, fetishists etc at heart.
Being a good Domme, either online or real time, takes a lot of dedication, a lot of hard work, a desire to really learn and grow constantly, a love for what you do and a certain flair that only comes not only with time, but with absolute enjoyment of what you do. In the long run you have to be able to cultivate relationships, that are often very difficult to maintain. You have to be able to constantly be creative, be able to put time aside for the training of your submissive male/female even when all you want to do is kick back and relax for a while.
What about the upkeep, the output, the considerable imagination you need to bring to the table? Just like with every other relationship, if you can’t keep it exciting and flowing, it will get old quickly. You need to be able to understand human psychology; you need to understand behaviors of the various males you deal with. You need to be able to entice, become the strong partner without ever losing your feminine behavior.
You need to be able and willing to learn, to except defeat from time to time, to admit when you are wrong and get over yourself as well. As much as you need to be able to make those bois understand that their first priority should be to you, to serving you, to adoring and worshiping you, you need to understand and handle the flip side of it as well.
Being just a spoiled little brat like a Daddies Girl has nothing to do with financial domination in the long run! In the long run you need to be able to give back. What happens when your looks fail? What happens when the bois need something to entice other then your body? What then? How do you keep the flow moving forward strongly?
What about when life throws you curve balls? What happens when your submissive suddenly has issues that are strongly concerning him? Can you turn from greedy bitch to wise counselor and still not lose your integrity?
Regardless if I am training a financial submissive online or in real time, it will take up a lot of my time. Will I drain him during that time spend? Yes, I will, to certain degrees, but I am still learning him with each session we talk.
Not only do I need to get into his mind, be solidly lodged deep within, but I also need to be able to understand how he ticks. You see some are never more then a quick fix, they don’t make good subs. They really are more of a cock driven crowd.
You learn that when you drain them and then make them wait on you, while you go and take a bath, fix a meal. You will see if they have the time and frame of mind, to sit and wait for your return. A loyal sub, will do so gladly. If he must leave, there will be a message explaining what happened.
You have those that have excuses constantly, why they can’t do something for you. Are the really worth the trouble? That is up to you. When you deal with those that are good and large gift givers when they feel like it, but at others times just waste your time and won’t do as told, do you retain them or cut them off?
With other words you will have to learn to decide what is acceptable for you. It is really difficult to send someone away that has in the past has send tributes to you well and often, but then has for one reason or the other gone bad. It is just as difficult to sit there and take hours of your time to plan a session for someone that does not appreciate the fine work you have put into him in the end.
Finding a good match is so important. But how do you find those matches? How do you know if you will in the end be good for each other? You learn by watching, listening and learning about each other.
For me it takes intelligent behavior and a willingness to learn from me, to even be considered raw material. I have two sets of rules for my subs and I treat them accordingly to which set I use.
I have those that I know will never last it out with me. They are just not that type of person. They amuse me with their cash value, but that is just about it. I would be a plan liar to say that I don’t enjoy using them for what they have to offer me, but past that they are no use to me. I can’t really have any good conversations with them, because we have nothing in common. They are just not on my level of wisdom and have no desire to ever get there. They don’t care about anything other then getting a quick fix and their rocks off. With other words, they are useless to me for anything other then the money and gifts I can get out of them. Since I refuse to lie, there is no harm done. You will know if I find you in that category, because if you are I won’t talk to you for longer then 2 minutes unless you tribute to me.
The other category are those that I consider raw potential for a long haul. I enjoy our every day conversations. We can talk about hobbies, spend time in each others company and I know much about them in a short time. They truly put my welfare, both physically and mentally first and are willing to do whatever it takes to make my life just a little easier. Those are the ones I adore and don’t mind spending time with from time to time, without any tribute at all. They usually have their set tributes once a week, once a month and I give them playtime when I desire to do so. Neither is ever requested. They do their part and I do mine. There is no force or push behind it, it happens naturally. Those are also the ones I set sessions up for on my own, look for them to check in with me sometimes daily. I hear about their day. For them it is truly a relationship that is being build up slowly and carefully.
You see that the word time and effort comes up a lot. I will make a statement that may not work for everyone, but if I would count the amount of time I put into my financial domination and the money and gift value I receive in return I can tell you that most months after dividing time and money I don’t even make minimum wage.
Does this sound like something that is easy money?
In essence, it is something that is not always exciting either. There are days when you almost have to force the issues with your piggies. It is as if you are dealing with a spoiled child that suddenly decided that you were being a bad mommy. Sounds a bit silly, but truly you need to understand that bois are very needy creatures.
So ladies if you think you will turn this into yet another get quick rich scheme keep thinking and looking. Bois if you think those initial $25 to $100 Tributes that so many of you bitch about is too much, then let me assure you that a Psychiatrist or Sex Therapist would charge you double the amount…and trust me I am much better.

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The internet has made it extremely easy for people to both stay incognito and yet get instantly connected to each other. Today I would like to touch up on the subject of first meetings, contacts via Yahoo Messenger, and of course the first email contact.
Once upon a Time you would see this special someone from across a Room, feel your slave heart pitter patter quicker by the second and derive deep within your humble heart to find a way to bring yourself to the attention of that exultant mesmerizing creature.
Eagerly you would set about finding out everything there is to know about her. Who is she? Where does she come from? Is she per chance looking for a new servant? What is her level experience? Is she a Stable Mistress, a Hisem Owner or a Goddess solitary with only one lucky slave? What pleases her? Once you did the necessary background work, you more and likely went on trying to get her attention.
Now, things have changed. The niceties seem to have gone along the way side for many of you subs. I see token words written that most of the times seem to mean little when placed into affect. Yet still the dilemma of firsts is still relevant and with that seems to pose a large confusion for so many of you new to online domination / financial fetish or the entire BDSM Realm completely.
You can never redo a first impression. No matter how hard you try, in the end if you were careless, thoughtless, lazy or rude, it will remain in the Memory Banks of your potential Mistress. A request to be added to a Friends list on a Forum is not something you should simply do with the “ADD Friends” button.
A proper “Friendship” or as I call interest request, should be done after an email of introduction has been sent. Remember that the lady in question doesn’t even know you are alive and unless she has already spoken to you previously, may not have any interest in you at all. Give her a quick but honest overview of who you are. A respectful address (either her Name or Ma’am) should always be the way you start this letter out. I find nothing more disturbing then the new style of writing with no address and no signature.
Don’t turn this into a fantasy or erotica script, but a polite summary of what you wish to achieve and why you find it desirous to add her as your friend.
Do not automatically assume she will swoon and hurry to accept your friend’s request. She may wish to do a little bit of checking around herself. Personally I accept few submissive males into my friends list. Those that are there are there for a reason. I actually have enjoyed conversations with them; perhaps they have served me in the past in some form. I understand that many forums and websites are now a mere social networking venue, but when you deal with domination and submission, a bit of decorum is still necessary.
Unless you receive a reply back stating that she is not interested, go ahead and send your request through. Remember that the lady is probably busy and may not have time to add you immediately. If you are truly interested in serving her, have watched her for a while and have found her to be amazing, a small gift may hurry her attention along. Small in this case meaning a Gift Certificate / a Bouquet of Flowers send to her Address if it is available. Show yourself as worth her time. This is financial domination bois. Money does talk and Bullshit does walk.
Once she has added you to the list, be certain to send a quick email of gratitude to her. Remember that a powerful woman does not chase you! You have to be able to woe and keep her interest. A quick Note shows that you have appreciated the time she took to read your Profile, your email over and found you worthy enough to be added. This is a privilege, not a right.
Don’t suddenly go dead in the water either. You wanted on that list for a reason, unless you are nothing more then a friends hound in which case I hope you lose your spot quickly.
Yahoo Messenger or equivalent seems to be another thing that folks just can’t seem to figure out.
Of course each lady is different, but I find the “Friends Requests without introductions” very irritating. If you want to be on my friends list, in my holies of holy then the least you can do is introduce yourself to me first, tell me where you came from and what your purpose in being here is.
I want to know if you are going to be just a waste of my time, or if I will find you a lovely addition to my friend in good time. Remember to that most of us have different categories we put you guys in.
I for one have seekers, piggy and friends. Where will you fit? If you think I am going to drop everything and be grateful that you have found me and rescue me from my boring life by your brilliant chat, (yes that was sarcasm) then think again.
The only time I truly want to be interrupted is if you have something that may amuse me. My Friends are people who already know me well enough to understand why I may not respond immediately, those I mentor in real time (females) or those who have worshiped and served me for long periods of time. They are like my family to me and understand every nuance of my silence as if I was breathing directly in front of them. My fellow Mistresses are on my messenger as well, and they too will have to wait until I have time to chat with them. With other words, just because you are under friends, doesn’t mean I will drop everything I am doing either.
So when you come on, be sure to send your message first, introduce yourself and let the lady in question decide if she wants to have you added. Make your intentions honestly clear. Who knows, maybe she would enjoy just some nice casual chat with a submissive full of flattery. Be aware however that empty flattery can have adverse effects. You may wish to be able to back what you are saying up.
The all important first time real time meeting.

Greetings to A/all!
Goddess BellaDonna invited me to author some material, from a subbie's point of view, about getting started in Financial Domination. I am a member over at MyFinancialDommeSpace, a social networking site for FinDommes and financial submissives… which is how GBD and I became acquainted. I joined the site in December 2008 and have enjoyed it immensely since!  I am honored to have been invited over here and hope that you may find helpful some of the things that I've gone through as a relative newbie to FinDom!
I have a background in "traditional" BDSM, having seen ProDommes (mostly one in particular) regularly since the mid 1990's. However, I had not participated in FinDom in any of that time… and had in fact even had a negative view of this fetish for a while! Inadvertently, I had violated a creed of mine that goes something like this: "Don't trash someone else's kink, as you would not want the same done to you".
Even though I had a somewhat negative view of the fetish, perhaps colored by the growing legions of what might be called "insta" Dommes (here only for a hit and run, get rich quick scheme on unwitting submissives), I had secretly fantasized about the CONTROL aspect of it. Control and power exchange are the two items that "make me tick" in general BDSM… the mental aspect that make me want to drop to my knees, to submit, to give over whatever power I maintain in the vanilla world to my Mistress.
Giving money over, with no expectations of anything in return, is really one of the most selfless acts of submission there is. I was curious to try this, so when I happened upon MyFinancialDommeSpace while randomly surfing the net one day… I thought I would give it a go and see what happened. Much to my surprise, the community there was welcoming and receptive!
I met several wonderful Dommes, and a few fellow subbies there too. The advice that GBD offers in previous articles here about taking things slowly rather than jumping in straight away and promising the sun and moon to the first hot Goddess that crosses your path is solid and should be REQUIRED reading for any subby out there.
I've been blogging on MFDS as well, and here's some excerpts of one I posted that, from experience, I would offer as advice to newbies joining a social network like MyFinancialDommeSpace:
PROFILES
I can't stress enough how much filling out a profile helps avoid wasting ANYONE'S time. Both for the subbie, and for the Dommes out there. It can be done without divulging info that could be used for unscrupulous purposes… either by other Dommes for unconsensual blackmail, or by unsuspecting vanilla people googling you.
Do treat anything you put on the internet as potentially falling into anyone's hands. However, as long as you don't do something really foolish like put your real name, your work email alias, or something else in your profile or board handle that would immediately associate you with the info… profile info here should be relatively safe. I chose a relatively off the wall handle for this purpose… and to boot, ended up misspelling it a bit unintentionally! However, it has a decent side-effect of being less likely to show up for a google search that I hadn't intended to be the target of. Guess it makes someone too nosy for their own good have to work a bit harder at it
Don't use one word responses or leave important sections blank. You'll either get no interest, or perhaps some attention from "hit and run" types that don't care about compatibility or more so about just a quick wallet drain. I've found that having a reasonably-filled out profile… done honestly… has helped me to get in contact with those that share similar views on this fetish. And it's likely helped those who don't share them to avoid wasting their valuable time on me in return (hehe).
Oh… and do be honest about likes, limits, etc. Especially limits. It helps parties determine right away if it is worthwhile to better get to know each other, or just move on with a minimum of fuss and time being wasted!
On the other side of the fence… Seeing a Domme's profile helps me get a feel for her personality, style, interests, etc. It's great for basic info and not having to waste her time with the same bazillion questions she'd get asked repeatedly in chat or messages by potential subbies. Even non-scene stuff like musical and literary interests are fun to see… it gives some nice ice-breaker things to talk about. I would tend to just pass up and move along if I saw a one line profile like "Losers… how much do you make… send it to me NOW". Probably just like a Domme would move along if she saw a subbies profile empty or with one word responses to everything that doesn't really help her much.
FORUMS/CHAT/OTHER SITE FEATURES
Before you chat up a Domme, take the time to read the forums (if your site offers such a feature). See what is talked about. There are often topics related to advice or experiences from both Dommes and subs that are helpful to read. You'll also get a sense of who knows their stuff, what the personality and interests of the person behind the screen name are, and so on. Someone who participates in the site actively may be more likely to be genuinely interested in bdsm and FinDom rather than just a "cash and dash" type looking for quick payday at your expense. If you're looking for some interaction with a Domme, these participants are your likely best bets
MyFinancialDommeSpace has a "poll" feature that can be very insightful to get a feel on how a Domme feels about issues or philosophy within the fetish. Participate and read the responses of others. You'll get to see if you and your candidate Domme "agree" a lot of the time. If you do, that's a good sign! If not, maybe you should think twice and consider someone more compatible.
Groups can be worthwhile too. These generally focus on a specific sub-fetish or interest. Join some that interest you and see who belongs to these. Groups can be a good sign of shared interests and fetishes. Some sites have chat rooms… these can be useful to get to know people too in a safe, anonymous way.
Obviously, there are many ways (or sites) to meet Dommes online. Even YouTube has a fairly large collection of videos that Dommes put up to "express themselves". For me, joining a social site like MyFinancialDommeSpace was invaluable to help sort out the skilled Dommes from those that don't really know what they're doing (other than grabbing your cash and going, that is). I'd highly recommend going this route!

Do you ever wonder or even worry about your credit score in your vanilla life? Do you realize just how important having a good credit score is to get anything you really want and need? Even renting an Apartment can become down right impossible when your Credit Score is bad. Purchasing anything with no Credit or bad Credit is a nightmare.
So what does having a good Credit Score to do with financial domination you wonder right about now! Well let me explain it to you in as simple terms as I possibly can.
Just like with the Credit Score in your vanilla life, your “credit Score” as a financial Submissive is dependent on your ability to uphold your part of the bargains you strike, your commitment to making your payments in full and on time, to be responsible in your spending habits and to not go over what you can really afford.
Your Word is your bond in so many more ways then you can even phantom most of the time. Making commitments that you have no intention of holding will ALWAYS come back to bite you in the Ass. Just like with a regular Credit Score, your potential Creditors (in that case your financial Mistress), will look at your Credit Score you have amassed. In some cases all the Data may not be laid out right in front of her, but with a little digging she is sure to find out.
Imagine the Mistresses talking to each other like a Hotline at the Credit Bureau, sooner or later if you are a constant slackered, a wastrel or a perpetual liar your name will come up on the Hot List. Yes, there may be an overflow of potential Mistresses, but in the end those that could possibly be worthy of your service will at this point be ready to just pass you up.
Being new to financial domination only excuses you from foolish mistakes and fears for so long. You still know that if you make a commitment, sign a contract, make a promise or apply for a situation you are now responsible to uphold the terms of that agreement.
Sure everyone makes a mistake or two, but constantly and setting out to bankrupt your promises from the get go just makes you a big waste of time.
So how do you build up your financial Credit Score? By being honest with yourself first of all. Can you chew what you are biting off? Do you have the means to follow up on your obligations? You wouldn’t go into a BMW Dealership and sign a contract to purchase the top of the line vehicle, if you don’t even have enough cash to purchase a Bike? If you are only in it for the dream, then read all you want about the fantasies, look at the free stuff out there, go to Youtube and watch the clips there, but don’t approach a Mistress with promises and lies.
Let’s just say you do have enough financial fluidity to be able to tribute a bit on a regular bases, but are still new to the entire scene then tread carefully. Go slow and do some research first. That doesn’t mean chatting up every hot pair of boobs you feel attracted to. Yes, I know that may be offensive, but for most newbie’s that is exactly what they go for. Looking for more then the skin deep comes with age and character, sadly I don’t see too much of it out there anymore.
Read up a little bit about the person you have your eye set on. Form your own opinions about her. Beware of slander! Yes, I do want to bring that up. Just because you hear a bunch of negative stuff from those that have been rejected by her, or from fellow ladies doesn’t mean it is all written in stone either. Talk to her in person. Approach her respectfully and go from there.
Like I said financial domination takes some common sense. You are dealing with your money, your lively hood here. Go slow, be safe and please think a little.
Understand that just pretty words are a dime a dozen. If I would have a Dollar for each time someone told me I was divine and worthy of so much, I would be rich right now and would never have to work again. Pretty words alone mean anything to me. I already know that I am smart, lovely and divine. I don’t need you to tell me that. I want to see what you have to offer me, both intellectually and financially.
Financial domination is about your turning into mush knowing that you are helpless in my power and are willing to beg that up with your cash going into my hands.
Consider your first Tribute to me a down payment to a solid foundation of a house. You wouldn’t want to lay a faulty or weak foundation.
If I give you the credit to believe you will be trust worthy, then don’t screw that up. See you know the word credit came from somewhere. Credit in this case simply means…I give you the credit of doubt that you won’t mess up, are not a liar and are going to be worthy of my attention and training. As a financial submissive, you already know that this involves money, gifts and service. You shouldn’t even try to act surprised.
Your Credit Score will rise over time, and that means to you that you will be able to get bigger and better things with your credibility. Can you imagine the lovely service you will be able to provide a Lady of Quality once you are known to her as a gentleman with high credibility?
Think about it!

Applying for a position with a financial Mistress is like applying for a position with a 100K a year situation!
Let this statement soak in for a few moments first. See if you can find the sense in this statement. Really ponder on that for a moment.
If your first humorous thought was that the reason for that statement would be that you better make 100K a year or up before you can become a money submissive, you have missed the point entirely.
If you thought that this would be the amount of money you would be required to tribute to your Mistress to please her, then I have to mention that this would entirely depend on who your Mistress is.
The answer I am looking for would have probably not even come into most of your minds. It actually is rather simple, but most do not see it in this concept.
If you apply for a Position with a Company that can make you 100K a Year, you will make certain that you prepare yourself appropriately. One you will do a background check on the Company, which means you will actually try to find out as much as possible about the Company in question. What do they do? How do they treat their Employees? What is their reputation? Is this a new Company with fresh and newly innovative Ideas, or is this a Company which is built on Tradition? What are their requirements? How do they handle the interview process? Who do you have to contact to get the interview? When is the best time to get the Interview?
Once you have all that information gathered and processed, you can make the decision if you want to take the next step forward. Remember that not every Position is necessarily correct for you. For some of you it is best to go with a fresh face, for others they need the structure and strictness of those around for a while. Neither is right nor wrong, only a personal requirement that you need to think on. If you do, you need to get your-self together. Send a letter of introduction or submit an application with resume. If you have worked in that particular area before you would give some references. If you are completely new, you may wish to add in a few sentences what you believe you could bring to the table to edify the company and make you a good candidate.
Time for crunch time, you have garnered an appointment / interview with the Boss or the hiring Manager. (Yes, in some cases you may need to speak to a first in command before you are even allowed to speak to the Boss.) How is your behavior? Are you rude, demanding and obnoxious? Are you dressed less then desirable, are not clean and drunk? No you put your best step forward and mind your manners. You think carefully before you speak and you are confident but humble. A first impression is always difficult to undo.
As you see a lot of hard work goes into applying for such a thought after Position. As a submissive who wishes to find a worthy Dominant, be it Master or Mistress, to serve you should not put any less effort into it.
What I see instead is so many of you treating this process as if you were trying to find just any job, going from McDonalds, Burger King to Jack in the Box filling out application after application, just hoping someone will take you on. You hold no pride in yourself or the job you wish to garner. Not only are you insulting yourself with such a behavior, but in many ways are insulting the personage you are applying to as well.
For my personal opinion, I hold very little stage into a sub who has applied to every skirt in town and now has “at last” made his way to me as a last resort. You did not treat me like a Goddess, but like a J>O>B Queen…just over broke Queen. With other words desperate enough to take any piece of trash that comes along.
When I receive a request from you to talk to me and you come at me, clearly showing that you are rather clueless as to whom you are speaking to, what my particular strength are, have no questions of import to ask me, then I am already inclined to treat you like the bottom feeder you represent.
Understand that this may not disqualify you for a money play with me, meaning I will take your cash because after all you have represented yourself more as a community whore then a sub-licant, but you have disqualified yourself for any serious chances of service to me in the long run.